Need advice Please!

iVillage Member
Registered: 12-16-2009
Need advice Please!
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Wed, 12-16-2009 - 9:25am

Hi!


Not sure where to begin but I could really use some input.

iVillage Member
Registered: 12-09-2009
Wed, 12-16-2009 - 9:45am

Love...(((HUGS)))


I know how you are feeling...and I know what its like to be on both sides!!


As for being the W....my H and I had issues for a few years and I started an EA with a friend...that EA turned into a PA as well.

iVillage Member
Registered: 10-25-2007
Wed, 12-16-2009 - 10:08am
I am sorry you are hurting. I feel the same way about my H. I just can barely stand to look at him anymore. I so want my AP. I don't know what to tell you except that you need to do what makes YOU happy, so that you can give that to your kids. Being in an unhappy M radiates to everyone. There is no point in staying in an unhappy M if you know you don't want to be there. I am getting out, just not sure when. I wish you the best. I am here to listen.
iVillage Member
Registered: 11-16-2009
Wed, 12-16-2009 - 11:01am
I can't really give you any advice as I am in no position to do this. All I can do is tell you I am here to listen and give you an ear, support and ((((HUGS)))).
iVillage Member
Registered: 12-16-2009
Wed, 12-16-2009 - 11:09am

Thank you both for your response.

iVillage Member
Registered: 10-25-2007
Wed, 12-16-2009 - 2:30pm
You're welcome. That is what we are here for. I hope you can find some lasting happiness. We all deserve it.
iVillage Member
Registered: 12-14-2009
Wed, 12-16-2009 - 2:38pm

Hi Lovelife.


I wish I could give you a good answer, but I am pretty much in the same boat.

iVillage Member
Registered: 12-16-2009
Wed, 12-16-2009 - 3:24pm

Hi Shame..


I understand you completely. My AP is stunning (gorgeous) but so is my H.

iVillage Member
Registered: 12-14-2009
Thu, 12-17-2009 - 11:10am
Wow....you just dont know how great it is to read all these posts and know that there are others going through the EXACT same thing as me. I know that life is too short to live unhappy, but I also struggle with being selfish and being the cause of someone else's hurt. Yes, I know that discovery of my A would lead to devastating hurt, however, as all of us.....I don't intend to have my A discovered. I know it could happen, but I try hard to keep that from happening. It just stinks, because I want so bad to be a woman and wife who is faithful, good, and a role model. Not this cheat who is in love with someone else. But I can't seem to get away from it. I wish there was a pill or some sort of cure. My thoughts are my own worst enemy. They range from self loathing to worrying my AP is going to find someone else, to wishing I could leave my marriage, to wishing I could just somehow get amnesia and not remember anything or anyone except my kids and start fresh. It is really really hard.