Oh My God!!! When I saw the words "two minutes" I almost died! That is EXACTLY my biggest problem! He cannot last and says he'll try better but he doesn't. There is basically NO foreplay on his part but plenty on mine for him. it is not fair and yes, I think I am frustrated and a bit put off that he doesn't think it is important enough to work on even though we discuss it. he could at least make foreplay worthwhile and enjoyable. I have said things, nicely, so as not to hurt his feelings but it doesn't seem to mean enough. he loves me more than life itself and I know he would do anything for me. I have the tug of war but yet I am yearning for another man to want me, please me and treat me as if it matters. No on wants to feel like a sex object. I am sorry your first AP made you feel so bad but at least you know exactly what he was up to. That is pretty bad that he couldn't even contain himself. I have a lot of trouble with the whole cheating thing even though I do it. I compartmentalize it and try not to think about it because i know how wrong it is. I ask myself why I keep doing it but as you know, that pull is so strong and I ignore the warning bells. I run towards it instead of away. I wish I had an answer for you but I dont. I am doing the same things you are............
Hi again! I posted on your last post on here. You and I seem to have similar situations when it comes to our M's. I don't want to give a lot of info, but I'll just leave it at that.
I wanted to say that I don't want to speak for the other women on here, but I am not completely reconciled in my mind. Maybe it sounded that way, but let me tell you, I struggle with this on a daily basis and it sucks. I wish that I'd never done what I did, but I did and now I feel like I can't stop it. The only way I keep from driving myself crazy is by telling myself I'm doing this for a reason (bad sex life) and to do it as little as possible. If I did this all the time, or even had an EA with the guy I'd probably beat myself to a pulp with guilt. I am "friends" with
If it were only so simple! I tell myself I wont get emotionally involved but there are usually feelings no matter how much we try or tell ourselves there wont be. It happens. There is no way I personally can reconcile in my head that it is ok. I know it is not. I have a choice to not pursue this but I do. It fills a need, a void that needs filing and something that maybe years of counseling can rectify.
I agree - it is not easy. Believe me, I don't fool myself in to thinking I have no feelings for my AP. I do. I try my hardest to fool myself, but it inevitably comes back to bite me. But, I don't see AP on an every day
No on wants to feel like a sex object. I am sorry your first AP made you feel so bad but at least you know exactly what he was up to. That is pretty bad that he couldn't even contain himself. I have a lot of trouble with the whole cheating thing even though I do it. I compartmentalize it and try not to think about it because i know how wrong it is. I ask myself why I keep doing it but as you know, that pull is so strong and I ignore the warning bells. I run towards it instead of away. I wish I had an answer for you but I dont. I am doing the same things you are............
Hi again! I posted on your last post on here. You and I seem to have similar situations when it comes to our M's. I don't want to give a lot of info, but I'll just leave it at that.
I wanted to say that I don't want to speak for the other women on here, but I am not completely reconciled in my mind. Maybe it sounded that way, but let me tell you, I struggle with this on a daily basis and it sucks. I wish that I'd never done what I did, but I did and now I feel like I can't stop it. The only way I keep from driving myself crazy is by telling myself I'm doing this for a reason (bad sex life) and to do it as little as possible. If I did this all the time, or even had an EA with the guy I'd probably beat myself to a pulp with guilt. I am "friends" with
Glad to see I'm not the only one who gets torn up over this.
I agree - it is not easy. Believe me, I don't fool myself in to thinking I have no feelings for my AP. I do. I try my hardest to fool myself, but it inevitably comes back to bite me. But, I don't see AP on an every day
Yep.