Considering marriage with M with A past

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Registered: 09-15-2009
Considering marriage with M with A past
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Sun, 12-20-2009 - 4:44pm

I found a man with a strong character, except.

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Registered: 10-25-2007
Sun, 12-20-2009 - 8:50pm
I am a bit confused. Are you dating? How long? Please give some more background.
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Registered: 09-15-2009
Mon, 12-21-2009 - 1:01am
Yes, we're dating.
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Registered: 10-25-2007
Mon, 12-21-2009 - 1:01pm
I would wait it out and see what happens, love-wise. I would never jump right into marriage. You have the right idea. If it's meant to be, it will be. Is he pressuring you?
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Registered: 09-15-2009
Mon, 12-21-2009 - 6:37pm

No pressure.


I know I can fall for this guy - no question! - the question is whether it's wise with his history of infidelity.


I was hoping to get some guidance here on whether I should trust a man who had been unfaithful.

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Registered: 04-05-2007
Mon, 12-21-2009 - 7:57pm

Maybe once you get to know him much better you'll be able to figure out yourself if it was just the situation in his case that caused the infidelity or if it was something inside of himself.

Yes, he has shown that if it gets tough, he can turn to another woman to "distract" himself, and that's troubling because you're right, every relationship has bumps and hard times.

But I wouldn't write him off just yet. Get to know him better and see what you think.

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Registered: 11-24-2009
Tue, 12-22-2009 - 9:34am
I agree. I dont buy the 'once a cheater always a cheater'. You have to find out what caused it to begin with.
~Layla~
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Registered: 11-13-2008
Tue, 12-22-2009 - 2:33pm

Once a cheater,always a cheater -- i dont agree either but your guy has had 2 A's which does raise eyebrows.
You have valid points to worry and not rush into anything serious till you are satisfied with him as a person.
Sometimes 2 people bring out the worst in each other while some bring out the best in another even with a small contact.

Take it slow and ask him what prompted him to have 2 A's.but i guess,these thoughts of him wandering again will always be with you.

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Registered: 09-15-2009
Tue, 12-22-2009 - 7:54pm

Let me see if I can answer everyone's questions.


I think it