what type of single other woman are you?
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| Tue, 12-22-2009 - 9:53pm |
Ladies, i was reading an article today at the manicurist. the article was written by a man warning married men who were involved with single women and the benefits and drawbacks of this type of emr. the newspaper belonged to the manicurist so i couldn't ask her to give me the article. if i can get a copy of the article from the writer online, i will post it on here. anyway, after reading the article, a thought occured to me based on what the writer said.
part of what he said was that some women love to get involved with mm as they don't want the responsibility of a full time relationship. i then thought to myself that there seems to be three types of s.o.w. 1.those who are in it for the money and other benefits-house, car,trips all over the country or wherever/vacation 2.those who are continuously involved with one mm after the next, cause as i said above, they don't want the responsibility of a full time relationship. they cannot be bothered with cooking and washing and other domestic chores for the man and 3. those who want a full time and permanent relationship with the mm eventually, which means you (the s.o.w.) would want him to leave his wife. this one definitely involves love.
well i was a number 3. which of the three are you? will check for the answers tomorrow. good night everyone.

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Hi k2002,
I am definitely number three. I knew IMMEDIATELY that I was in love, and that feeling definitely overwhelmed me. I left my marriage of twenty five years because of my love for him. Has he left his? Nope. The pain of that is often paralyzing, yet I stay.
I sometimes wish I could jump from man to man, but it's just not in me. I think that I would never feel clean again.
benska
I am definitely a #3 (those who want a full time and permanent relationship with the mm eventually, which means you (the s.o.w.) would want him to leave his wife. this one definitely involves love.)
AP always said he would leave his wife after their child graduates high school this June.
I'm in category 3.
Im definatly category 3, although i
"be yourself, disguise not, for your a truly unique beautiful being"
He is living with someone. From what he has told me they are FWB, have known each other 8 years and have been living together for about 2 years now. How true the FWB thing is, I don't really know. I have "evidence" possibly supporting that statement and just as much against it.
It's "supposed" to be just me, so he claims. Says the thing with the roommate/FWB is over and has been since a couple months after I came into the picture. 99% sure that's a lie. From what I gather, based on phone records and snooping thru his text messages, he still has something going on with FWB (not sure if its sexual/emotional or what) PLUS I recently found out he flirts with some other local woman. Seems he has no love interest in the OOW (other other woman, jeez), just sexual, but yet from what I can tell has never so much as kissed her. It just seems to be a nice thought/ego stroking thing between them. Still doesn't make me happy.
Funny thing is, I would be/could have been ok sharing him with just his roommate/FWB. Like I said, it started out as a category 1, but turned to category 3. As long as that was agreed to up front and no promises or discussion of exclusivity/future together were brought in, that could have been ok with me. Yes, I like(d) him, but his promise of exclusivity and him calling me his GF started taking me down another path. It made me want/hope for more. Apparently he can't follow thru or really offer me what he says, so now I'm hurting. But, also mad enough to end it, soon. I can't continue to be hurt every time he makes up what I know to be another lie to spend time with her or short change me in some way. It's just not right. He wants me all for himself, but does what he pleases?! How's that fair? (Sorry, rhetorical question and in a bad mood tonite).
Hi k2002,
You ask if I regret leaving my H and I'm not really sure how to answer that. Up until I got together with AP/BF, I could never have imagined leaving my H. We had a really great relationship and were the envy of all our friends. Obviously though, it couldn't have been that great if I could have the affair, which is all it started out to be. I was kidding myself though, because it was immediately apparent to me that I was head over heels in love with AP/BF...as in I thought about him 24/7, all day, every day. I still do ~ 2 1/2 years later!
You ask if my H has found anyone else...honestly, I don't really know. I think the kids would tell me if he had, but they haven't said anything. I wo uld hope that I would be happy for him, I hurt him so badly. I'm pretty sure I'm gonna be a little jealous though...guess I'll know when it happens.
Yes, this whole situation sucks big time. I've been arguing more and more with AP/BF lately...because it hurts so much each and every time he leaves me to go home.
benska
Edited 12/24/2009 3:59 pm ET by benska2003
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