Caught having an affair with married man

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Registered: 12-27-2009
Caught having an affair with married man
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Sun, 12-27-2009 - 8:16pm
So I had been friends with this guy for about 3 years. About a a year ago we started hanging out. He was going through a rough patch in his marriage. It was all very innocent at first. Well, after a while, a kiss led to touching, and touching led to sex. We had sex about 3 times and then hung out a few more times after. I have not seen him in about 9 months. Then just a few days ago, his wife hacked into his facebook and posted that her husband cheated on her with me and it was very explicit. I am beyond regretful and feel so bad for this sin I have committed. I have not clue how she found out. I dont know what to do because I am so fearful that my reputation is going to be ruined. So far I have just denied everything. Please give me some advice!!!!
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Registered: 12-28-2009
Mon, 12-28-2009 - 3:02am
Since you've already started denying it all, I'm guessing you should continue. But had you not denied it, I would fess up and say yes I did and tell you version. I would email her and tell her your version. She is most likely destroyed and that's why she put it out there the way she did. It's not her fault. FYI : marriage is full of rough patches. It's so stupid that women have affairs with men and believe in the "rough patch" stories they tell. Men are so hard to live with and keep pleased, they lie about their stories most of the time. Wisen up.
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Registered: 09-15-2009
Mon, 12-28-2009 - 5:27pm

I agree with bucks except... I would not contact her at all.

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Registered: 11-14-2008
Tue, 12-29-2009 - 6:30pm

Unfortunatley that is the risk we take when we sleep with married men.

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Registered: 12-27-2009
Tue, 12-29-2009 - 10:08pm
I am just really worried for my safety. Everywhere I turn I am afraid I am being followed. I am having nightmares and am worried she is going to come after me. Everyone thinks I am only concerned about myself, but that is not true. I do feel so bad for what I have done. I know she has got to be hurting so bad right now. But I think it is odd that she bitched me out one day, publicly humiliated me, and now I have not heard anything for almost a week. My friend said that is the "calm before the storm" and that she is probably scheming up ways to really destroy me. I wish I could take it back. I am a horrible person.