mini anxiety attack

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Registered: 11-24-2009
mini anxiety attack
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Tue, 12-29-2009 - 10:14pm

ok , folks, here it is ,almost new years eve, and im starting to fret about my SM. Not that he will go out with another woman, or go do anything to upset me, but fretting about

~Layla~
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Registered: 11-13-2008
Wed, 12-30-2009 - 1:07pm

layla,it seems like your AP is serious about you.You may just want to believe him ( if he hasnt given you any reason to)and live your life full of love.

How old is your AP? Does he want to get married again in life? Maybe these could provide you some insight as to where your A might lead to.
I am a SW with MM and have no desire to date other men.It does get lonely at times,like NYE.MM will be with family at home,not celebrating as one of his kids is down with flu.I will be home on my own.These are the times when i want him the most but then,i chose to stay with MM.I stay happy that i have him in my life.It might sound silly to many but thats how it is for me.i have no intention of marrying but if it happens to be with MM ,i would,in a heartbeat.

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Registered: 06-27-2006
Wed, 12-30-2009 - 2:41pm

Layla,


I have been through similar fretting

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Registered: 11-24-2009
Thu, 12-31-2009 - 9:04am
It does me good to read about single person
~Layla~
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Registered: 11-24-2009
Thu, 12-31-2009 - 9:10am

Seems that you and I have a lot in common.

~Layla~
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Registered: 10-25-2007
Thu, 12-31-2009 - 7:59pm
I feel badly for my S AP also but we don't have a "love" R so to speak. He knows I love him and I think he loves me but there's no R there, really. Been doing it almost 3 years and although I think he used to go out with other women, I don't think he does anymore. He has lots more time for me now and explains things about other women in a way as to put me at ease, if that makes sense. Like they're just a friend or some such thing. You have to trust him. I don't think he'd tell you that if he didn't mean it. You are a lucky woman and I hope you enjoy every minute with him. It is special.
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Registered: 01-04-2010
Mon, 01-04-2010 - 6:50pm
Layla, i am in a similar situation. But we are not in the same state, it is a mostly emotional relationship. But he won't continue this relationship if I stay in my M. Says he loves me and he gets sick thinking that we may not be together but he says he can't continue this with me being in my relationship. He wants to be with me at all times. I don't know which is a worse situation.
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Registered: 11-24-2009
Tue, 01-05-2010 - 6:18pm
So you are saying he will end the relationship with you if you dont leave your marriage?
~Layla~