First Fight, and Fingers Crossed
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First Fight, and Fingers Crossed
| Tue, 05-25-2010 - 7:02pm |
AP and I had our first fight, and quite honestly, I'm a bit confused by his behavior.
Keeping in mind that we were friends before we began an A, we've always been

he must have been suppressing conflicting feelings and must have let his guard down.. he must know he can't ask that you be not intimate w/ your H.. that's just not possible.. he knows that.. but then there's the male ego.. and probably not that different for women either..
he needs to confirm to you that what he did was wrong.. and that he can't be possesive about you that way.. it's just not realistic and will only bring more stress.. maybe a ban on home intimate life discussions between the two of you
I could tell he really felt awful about the whole thing; it really was just so unlike him.
anotherseyes
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Not crazy, but I wouldn't worry. The men who have a "push and pull" pattern seem to have it right from the start. And although there's a theory that it means they have strong feelings (and that might be true in some cases), I think it's more guilt and thinking about what would happen if found out that causes their "pulling away". If your AP hasn't had a "pulling away" episode yet, it's probably not gonna happen.
And yeah, he's obviously jealous. Sometimes men have a "sexual jealousy" even if they're not "in love", it's a "possessive" thing. But from what you've shared, he might very well be falling in love. I guess it's best to keep your marital sex life to yourself LOL!
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Well, apparently AP doesn't consider what happened the other night a "fight".
Quick backstory: I have three fairly close male friends (AP being one of them) whom I chat/text with on a regular basis.
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