Need your opinions

iVillage Member
Registered: 04-28-2010
Need your opinions
7
Wed, 05-26-2010 - 4:02pm
I've posted a few times, but just to recap I am a MW in what I perceive to be an EA with a MM. The EA hasn't become a PA yet. There have been the typical flirty emails, lots of in person chats, lunches, and a ride on his Harley. I am the one that tends to initiate most of the flirting, although he plays along. We equally look for each other to chat. Lunches I bring up, but he is always willing to go and one lunch date he couldn't make and he was the one that made sure we went out the next week. He has been very busy the past two days at work and today I needed to ask him something work related today. He wasn't very chatty and I didn't hang around-just got the answer to my question and left politely. A short while later he sent me an email apologizing for being short, but that he was really busy. I'm not sure what I need an opinion on here, but how do I know if I am just misinterpreting all of this and he is just being my friend and nothing more...should I just ask him straight out?
iVillage Member
Registered: 05-19-2010
Wed, 05-26-2010 - 4:08pm
Stop chasing and see if he comes back.
iVillage Member
Registered: 05-03-2010
Wed, 05-26-2010 - 4:18pm
ITA.

anotherseyes

iVillage Member
Registered: 04-28-2010
Wed, 05-26-2010 - 4:24pm
So simple and then I don't have to put it out there...Thanks.
iVillage Member
Registered: 04-01-2003
Wed, 05-26-2010 - 6:19pm

If he wanted to blow you off, he would NOT have emailed you.

iVillage Member
Registered: 04-28-2010
Tue, 06-01-2010 - 4:17pm
Just an update, I took all of your good advice and did not initiate any contact with MM for a few days. He left on Thursday for a multi family camping trip and I wished him a good trip. The day before he left we chatted briefly and I think he could tell I was a little off because he was brief. He sent me an email a little later that day apologizing for being brief. Today we were both back at work and I decided I was not going to contact him since I was the last one to be in touch. He sent me an email asking about my weekend and apologizing for not saying hello sooner,but that he was busy after being off for a few days. I told him to let me know when he was free and we could catch up on our weekends. He emailed me a short while later saying he was free and we caught up on our weekends for about an hour (he stayed late) and he mentioned us going lunch later in the week. So I guess I have my answer based on what all of you have told me that this is an EA otherwise, why would he bother? Now I have to be brave enough to ask him if he wants this to go any further-any suggestions are welcome!
iVillage Member
Registered: 03-26-2010
Wed, 06-02-2010 - 2:13am

I'm glad he made the effort to reach out to you.

iVillage Member
Registered: 04-28-2010
Wed, 06-02-2010 - 10:43am
Thanks for your reply. I sent him a note today about lunch or a beer later this week. If we do get together, I will take the opportunity to ask him what, if anything other than friendship is going on. I hope I can be as brave as you were. In a few weeks I won't see him everyday as he will be relocating to another building on campus. So, if I don't hear what I want to hear, not seeing him everyday will make it easier for sure. I'll be sure to update.