What do you keep?

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Registered: 04-27-2010
What do you keep?
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Sat, 05-29-2010 - 10:13am

Reading in another post, I think it was alwayst2 who mentioned Tiger Woods and mistresses keeping "incriminating" texts, e-mails, etc. What do you keep?


I keep no e-mails, photos, etc. (We don't text...phone paper trail)

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Registered: 05-04-2010
Sat, 05-29-2010 - 3:54pm

I don't keep anything either, which makes me sad sometimes, but it's 100% necessary.

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Registered: 03-26-2010
Sat, 05-29-2010 - 4:43pm

That's an interesting topic, kimber!

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Registered: 04-27-2010
Sat, 05-29-2010 - 7:02pm

Text log, court ordered??? What??

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Registered: 04-11-2010
Sun, 05-30-2010 - 12:56am

We delete everything- texts, very few emails.


Having said that I have kept a few of his texts when he went all freaky last year- mostly to remind myself that he has a cold side that I didnt get to see when it all first started. It keeps me grounded.


He has bought me gifts though- little keepsakes that I keep at my office. He also bought me lovely perfume once. When he ended it last year, I gave the perfume away to the Salvation Army. It had a note saying 'this was given to me by someone who brojke my heart- I dont want it anymore-but its expensive and someone may like it'.


I also put the keepsakes in my office drawer so i wouldnt see them all the time. The les he is 'in my life', the more balanced I feel.


Interestingly I gave him a lovely card last year when we were all mushy (before the intensity got to him and I gave him a tie. He wears the tie alot and has kept the card. I asked him to throw it away as its dangerous for him (doesnt have my full name anywhere). But he refuses.


The 'I cant deal with intensity' dude keeps little momentoes of me! The guy does my head in :)

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Registered: 03-03-2010
Sun, 05-30-2010 - 1:03pm

Mostly everything.


I've kept cards, and silly little joke things he's given me.

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Registered: 05-03-2010
Sun, 05-30-2010 - 2:45pm

I don't keep much, though wish I could.

anotherseyes

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Registered: 03-03-2010
Sun, 05-30-2010 - 3:36pm

For those of you that don't know about this little trick - this works on most PC's from Windows XP & up (I can't speak to Macs, as I've never had one)...


For privacy and no cookies or history of where you go in the Internet, in other words, no need to erase your trail on a shared computer, especially a work computer, do the following:


Select the "Safety" option in your IE toolbar, then click on "In Private Browsing" and go from there.

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Registered: 05-03-2010
Sun, 05-30-2010 - 4:17pm

Thanks for the tip!


So if I'm understanding how this works correctly, I just have to leave the "In Private" window open (though minimized is OK) while I'm on the net, and I won't have to delete everything?

anotherseyes

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Registered: 03-03-2010
Sun, 05-30-2010 - 9:46pm

It just opens a new window and you'll see "In Private" in the address bar.

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Registered: 05-06-2010
Mon, 05-31-2010 - 1:53am
I'm a MW in an LDA with MM for almost 7 months now.
I keep ALL text msgs (both sent and received), IM logs and emails. I’ve got 3 mobile phones (1 for work and 2 personal), but I send/receive sms’s from AP only thru 1 particular number, so the message alert tone on that phone is off when I am home. To erase any suspicion, I sometimes leave them just lying around (the other 2 mostly) ... hehehe.... so H doesn’t even bother with them. I move all our sms's to each other into a separate (unassuming) folder in my mobile phone and copy them into my work laptop every now and then. H never touches this laptop but still I make sure it goes on standby and requires a password the minute I leave it on by itself (which is very rare anyway). Logs of our IM conversations and emails are safe this way too.
These forms of communication are all that I have to keep my squirrels at bay, although I admit there is one squirrel that permanently resides in my head coz we’re so far apart.
I gave him a pen which he uses at work and he’s given me a book (nothing romantic at all), which is right on my bedside table. He’s written something on it but didn’t sign his name (of course).

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