Do you trust your AP that

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Registered: 05-19-2010
Do you trust your AP that
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Tue, 06-01-2010 - 9:56am

Do you trust your AP that if you were discovered by error or fall pregnant, he will stand by you? Or will he throw you under the bus , so to say?

My A is one year old and havent had any discoveries or even suspicion on my H's part even though we are neighbors.I have a feeling that my AP will stand by me but then who knows? he might be the first one to run away and deny ? Who knows he might just say that I was throwing myself on him ,ugh! So far,he is a gentleman and I go along with the love in our A.

How much trust/faith do you have in your AP regarding this? Have you had any chance to see it?

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Registered: 06-19-2009
Tue, 06-01-2010 - 12:26pm

I have total and complete trust that my AP would stand by me if we were discovered. He has been the one wanting us to "be together" in real life and to have a child together.

Sunshine

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Registered: 07-24-2009
Tue, 06-01-2010 - 2:51pm

I don't think there is a circumstance under which AP would leave his marriage for me, including pregnancy or discovery.

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Registered: 05-03-2010
Tue, 06-01-2010 - 3:42pm
I have absolute and total faith in my AP to stand by me.

anotherseyes

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Registered: 04-11-2010
Wed, 06-02-2010 - 6:20am

Wow good question


Hmmm pregnancy? He would stand by me and the child but would be gutted by this outcome. I am having a hysterectomy in July for an ongoing medical issue so I guess that possibility wont arise after that.


D Day? Again he'd be devestated (as would I) because we both have families, children,

You are what you consistently do
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Registered: 12-18-2008
Wed, 06-02-2010 - 6:42am
Not any more. I got thrown under the bus as you say by an AP I trusted with all my heart. Now APs don't get my heart or my trust either. They're cheaters, and cheaters lie - I'm a cheater myself and I know. Experience has taught me to trust no one and protect myself first.
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Registered: 05-19-2010
Thu, 06-03-2010 - 10:14am

I guess it is a tough question to answer ! There should be a test to test the trust we keep in our APs or are A's based on mistrust itself! catch 22 !!
janamich67, I am sorry that your AP did that to you.You are not a cheater.. you are a person who fell in love outside marriage and unfortunately the guy was not worth risking your M for.No matter what,I surely believe it hurts.( hugs )