Didn't Need to Have "The Talk"

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Registered: 04-28-2010
Didn't Need to Have "The Talk"
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Thu, 06-03-2010 - 3:37pm
I heard back from MM today. I had sent him an email yesterday about lunch either this week or next as a follow up to his mentioning us getting lunch when we spoke on Tuesday. I told him we could go for lunch or a drink after work. I figured he would either play it safe with lunch or agree to the drink if he was interested in more. He emailed me today that he would have to take a rain check on lunch for tomorrow as he may be working in another building in the afternoon. He then went on about other work related stuff. I told him it was fine, we could reschedule for another time and left it at that. I'm bumming, but I guess I have my answer without having to come out and directly ask him what is going on between us, if anything. Not sure if lunch will ever happen, but I won't be bringing it up...
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Registered: 05-03-2010
Thu, 06-03-2010 - 4:01pm

((((Hugs))))


I certainly don't want to give you false hope, as you may have your "answer", but you may not.

anotherseyes

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Registered: 04-28-2010
Thu, 06-03-2010 - 4:25pm
Thanks for your feedback. He didn't know I wanted to have a talk, I had decided I wanted to talk to him the next time we were alone to see what is going on with us. I was going to try and be brave and ask him. I guess my asking him for lunch or a drink kind of threw the ball in his court for him to decide if he wanted to have another friendly lunch or if he wanted to have a drink which I perceive to be more than a friendly lunch. It was a cop out on my part of having to ask him directly-I wanted to feel him out, see what he was up for. Turns out neither, at least not this week. I guess we'll see if he reschedules lunch or drink or neither. He may just have realized what was going on and decided he should pull back...that he didn't want this to go forward.
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Registered: 03-29-2010
Thu, 06-03-2010 - 5:37pm
(((Hugs))) from me too.

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Registered: 03-26-2010
Fri, 06-04-2010 - 12:17am
Well, crap.
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Registered: 05-29-2010
Fri, 06-04-2010 - 9:30am

I wouldn't necessarily think that you have 'your answer'. I think email isn't the greatest form of communication and its really easy to read too much into what they say.

I think you should go with your plan and have The Talk. Take back some control and speak up. Otherwise you will torture yourself wondering.

Good luck! These affairs hurt more than they are worth sometimes it seems.