Crossing the physical line?
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Crossing the physical line?
| Tue, 06-08-2010 - 11:48am |
How did you make the decision to cross it. Did it just happen? Did one thing just lead to another? I'm at a crossroads. At first he wanted to, I didn't, then when I wanted to he wasn't sure, now we are both at a place where we want to cross the line. I'm not sure if I can handle it though - one part of me wants to find out, another doesn't.
I guess I'm just looking for other's experience.

I remember that point in time VERY clearly.
I made the decision to cross that line, and I've lost EVERYTHING because of it. Not the least of which is my self-respect. Have no idea how my x-h feels about it all....safe to say he has a lot of hate.
Don't do it. Just my opinion.
benska
My AP and I texted and flirted quite a bit before anything physical happened between us.
yep, a tough call..
look at where you want to be a year or two from now in your life.. if your goals include an A as part of your life, and you want that A to be physical, this is a just a normal progression.. you have to accept that this is your life, these are your decisions.. and choose what feels right for your circumstances, and if that means sleeping with your AP, that's your call to make..
on the other hand, if you are letting "events" take control of what's happening in your life, ie you feel you have minimal control, then i'd advise against it.. it surely will be negative experience then..
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I advise against it but I honestly believe it is the inevitable, especially if you both are very attracted to one another, have intense chemistry and it's all you think about.
We flirted heavy for 6 months before we even "messed around" then we kept that up for 4 more months before even doing the deed, we kept trying to avoid it and talked about how it isn't good to ever go there because it never ends up "pretty" (he had been there before, me, I hadn't) finally it happened and it has been nothing but an awful roller coaster since.
Our sexual chemistry/tension is insane and it is always "there" (we work together) and we have a pattern where we will talk/be "friends", then start to flirt talk dirty and all until neither of us just can't take it anymore and we get together, then we feel guilty and say how it isn't right, we shouldn't have done it, then the pattern starts all over again. We've had a couple pretty good arguments, but this has gone on for almost 2 years and it just sucks.
Don't do it if you can keep from it. My opinion.