Update-Even More Confused!
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Update-Even More Confused!
| Wed, 06-09-2010 - 3:58pm |
Here is the latest. MM has been NC since last Thurs. The same day that he told me he would need to take a rain check on my lunch/drink invite. He has responded to the work related emails I had to send him over the past few days. I have also sent a few others asking him if he was okay because he hasn't been at work and I haven't received a response-one yesterday and one today, very brief and to the point as in "are you okay?" Today I asked the same and that I was worried about him and if he could please email/call if he had the chance. We typically share with one another if we will be out or on vacation etc. Occasionally an unplanned sick day pops up and that is no big deal, but several days of not hearing from him or knowing where he is had gotten me worried-my Mommy instincts kicking in here. So I emailed a mutual friend of ours and come to find out he has been assigned to work on a project in another bldg this week and should be back here on Monday. I was relieved that everything was okay. Felt a little foolish, like I was maybe over reacting as well, but relieved. Our friend thought it was funny-he does not know anything about "us."
Anyway, now that I have been thinking about it some I am wondering why he hasn't bothered to respond to my emails or call me knowing I am worried about him to just let me know he is okay. Our friend just sent me a one line email explaining things, why could MM do the same? So now the squirrels are running loose again. Maybe he decided to take this opportunity to go NC and put some distance between us. I guess I won't know a thing until I see him next week. Mid week I am leaving for a family vacation for 2.5 weeks so it will be an extended period of NC. He knows this and he told me we would go to lunch before I left, but he didn't anticipate being relocated for an entire week when we talked about lunch, so my guess is he'll be too busy trying to catch up after being out for a week to have any lunches period. Any thoughts on his behavior?
Anyway, now that I have been thinking about it some I am wondering why he hasn't bothered to respond to my emails or call me knowing I am worried about him to just let me know he is okay. Our friend just sent me a one line email explaining things, why could MM do the same? So now the squirrels are running loose again. Maybe he decided to take this opportunity to go NC and put some distance between us. I guess I won't know a thing until I see him next week. Mid week I am leaving for a family vacation for 2.5 weeks so it will be an extended period of NC. He knows this and he told me we would go to lunch before I left, but he didn't anticipate being relocated for an entire week when we talked about lunch, so my guess is he'll be too busy trying to catch up after being out for a week to have any lunches period. Any thoughts on his behavior?

I really don't have any thoughts, other than maybe he's trying to enforce some NC to sort out his feelings?
I have to agree with the email thing, though.
anotherseyes
I don't know if this will make you both feel better, but sometimes I don't e-mail my OM for a couple of days. Well, I don't do e-mail on my phone (never access the internet from there). I don't text (hardly know how LOL. Used to have a fancier phone where it was easy and THEN I texted - not now). The one computer we have is in the bedroom, and sometimes on the weekend, H always seems to be floating behind me, or he's not feeling well and is taking naps, etc etc. I just don't feel like it's worth the chance of getting caught on those days. So I can understand about not e-mailing over the weekend sometimes!
Glad he finally got in touch jerseygirl. It stinks to be worried and have no way to make sure all is well!
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Jersey,
I am with you and anotherseyes about communication!
As for not contacting him, yes I am able to do that. I don't over the weekends and this week there has been pretty much nothing-a few work related issues, but nothing personal. I don't plan to contact him next week either. He knows I want to see him before I go on vacation, and he knows where my office is...
I'm with everyone on that communications thing!!
AP is attached to his phone for everything 24/7 for work.
anotherseyes