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| Fri, 06-11-2010 - 12:04pm |
For those women in relationships with MM, if you could take his W aside, what would you really like to say to her?

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Hi Mogul..
I don't know AP's H personally, but through her comms. In my case, I would like to have a drink with him at some bar (like a scene from Nurse Jackie) and shake him well and ask him what the hell is wrong with him that he doesn't see what a wonderful woman he has right in his house, and instead of being a selfish ass most of the time, he should wake up and realize how lucky he is and do everything he can to keep her happy..
it's a good fantasy anyway!..
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I don't know her, only what AP has told (which has been quite a bit).
anotherseyes
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You really want to shake the wife for her husband's cheating?:)
Don't mean to be a party pooper, but there are countless posts about ddays here. Go tell their wives about yourself...and you will be dumped in 30 seconds time while he'll run back with his tail between his legs to fix his "miserable" marriage where he is so "unappreciated" and where stress is "killing" him.
Come on ladies, those are like oldest lines in the book...:)
Love,
Gone
AP found me some months ago thru an internet social network. He told me that he had feelings for me for many years, felt that “spark” when we met over 20 years ago even before he got married, but I was newly married then. We very rarely bumped into each other after having met.
If I was to talk to W, I would ask what’s going on in their marriage so I just might be able to understand what pushed him to have an A with me. AP and I never discuss about the dynamics of our marriages, but I am just curious: if he were happy with his life, why did he reconnect with me some months ago and start this A? I will not tell W about the A, it is for AP to do so, when he is ready.
I have a little problem with the thinking in this thread, although I know it has every right to be here, if it's to share frustrations, etc.
Thing is, I am very close to two women (a relative and a life long friend) that were left by their H's after very long marriages for other women, and I know for a fact that if their H's said bad things about them, they were exaggerating or outright making things up. In one case, I know the H told his OW (I am friends with numerous people on many sides of this situation) that he had stopped having sex with his W a year before he left. In actuality, he was showing up at her door for sex for a good year after he left the house, and because she was still in love with her H and hoping he would come back - she jumped at the chance. I know his OW doesn't know about that.
I never "blame" the spouse in an affair. Even if they acted in a way that made it easier for the A to happen, it was still the choice of the spouse to fix their life with an A and not either end their so called miserable marriage or try to make it better.
I don't blame my H for my A. My OM has said he thinks he would be friends with my H in another life/different situation - that he sounds like a good guy. I guess I try not to complain about him. How can I complain, after what I'm doing to him?
In general, I don't like and will speak up about name calling BSs. I know, in a way it's not fair, as they name call us all the time. But they're acting out of hurt and anger and shock, much of the time.
Also, maybe I shouldn't even post about this because my OM doesn't have a wife, so maybe I can't relate. But just wanted to share my opinion.
You've got a lot of choices. If getting out of bed in the morning is a chore and you're not smiling on a regular basis, try another choice. ~Steven D. Woodhull
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Guess I'll chime in...
Don't know AP's W... have seen her one time. Don't hate her at all...not jealous of her (well, maybe for the fact that she gets to spend so much time with him, but I don't get the feeling it's really "quality" time), and protect the A because I wouldn't want her (and others)
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