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| Tue, 06-15-2010 - 4:04pm |
After a week of very little communication, the squirrels were starting to run wild. I had pretty much decided MM was just blowing me off. After my lunch/drink invite that it was loud and clear to him where I was coming from and he decided he didn't want any part of it. Especially since he worked off site last week and this week he was back, but hadn't tried to make any contact with me. I had hoped we could get together before I left on vacation. I wanted to clear the air between us or have some sort of talk to try and figure out what is going on between us, if anything or if it is all in my head.
The only benefit to this past week of almost NC gave me plenty of time to think. I know I am not imagining the flirtation, flirty emails, lunches, Harley ride, that have all happened these past two months. I know there is some interest on his part. I don't know to what extent, I don't know if he even knows. He is always happy to go along, but I seem to initiate more often than not.
So today I needed something work related. He told me to stop by and we spent about 30 sec talking about the work related item and one hour talking about other stuff, catching up. He told me he would be free for lunch tomorrow, so we will do that.
So now I feel like I am back where I started-I really enjoy his company and talking with him and am afraid if I "come out" and tell him how I feel about him (even though I suspect he knows) that he will pull back. Then again, if I don't say anything, I will continue to be in this limbo. It is a tough spot that I am sure many of you have been in. What should I do? If I do decide to fess up, what do I say? Thanks in advance for any suggestions.
I also found out that he will not be leaving my building at the end of July, but will start another project here in the late Summer. I told him I was very happy about that and that he would still have me hanging around and "pestering" him and he told me I wasn't "pestering" him.
Help!
The only benefit to this past week of almost NC gave me plenty of time to think. I know I am not imagining the flirtation, flirty emails, lunches, Harley ride, that have all happened these past two months. I know there is some interest on his part. I don't know to what extent, I don't know if he even knows. He is always happy to go along, but I seem to initiate more often than not.
So today I needed something work related. He told me to stop by and we spent about 30 sec talking about the work related item and one hour talking about other stuff, catching up. He told me he would be free for lunch tomorrow, so we will do that.
So now I feel like I am back where I started-I really enjoy his company and talking with him and am afraid if I "come out" and tell him how I feel about him (even though I suspect he knows) that he will pull back. Then again, if I don't say anything, I will continue to be in this limbo. It is a tough spot that I am sure many of you have been in. What should I do? If I do decide to fess up, what do I say? Thanks in advance for any suggestions.
I also found out that he will not be leaving my building at the end of July, but will start another project here in the late Summer. I told him I was very happy about that and that he would still have me hanging around and "pestering" him and he told me I wasn't "pestering" him.
Help!

I wish I had some advice for you, but at least in this particular situation, my A began mutually, and neither one of us had to wonder if there was interest or anything like that.
I can tell you that when I've had other questions/issues in the A, I've been upfront and honest with him.
anotherseyes
Haha!
I know you will probably get a lot of warnings and "be carefuls"
It made me giggly, too!
Hey Jersey!
I am so happy for you! I am totally writing this and smiling.
Everything that you wrote sounds promising and reasonable. Some of us (it seems the women often) have done a lot of thinking about having an A and are 'ready', but it seems like men can sometimes balk at the idea, even though they feel the same thing (not trying to generalize but something I've noticed in everyone's posts). I'm not surprised to hear that he has the same feelings for you but it too nervous at the moment to pursue a PA, but you guys are definitely having an EA, and EAs often become PAs!
My AP was super into things at first then backed way off because he felt guilty and was nervous about getting caught. So I played it cool (which was enormously difficult and felt like torture and I cried a lot) but it totally worked because he realized he wanted us to continue. Now I try and just enjoy what I can get, and have the mentality that 'what happens, happens'. If we're meant to continue, we will, but I can't force him into the A or to get over his guilt.
I think you should do exactly what you said, go with the flow, enjoy it for what it is, keep up the flirting and being irresistable, and I wouldn't be surprised if things develop from there.
Just make sure to keep your emotions and fantasies in check, because it hurts when the crash down on you. Let him work through his issues on his own time, and just be the awesome, hot, flirty, cool and conversational woman that you are. Show him why he should want you!
I'm very pleased for you Jerseygirl!
On a side note, I just have to share that my AP finally texted me! I hadn't heard from him since Thursday, my last day of my contract where we worked. I was totally starting to spazz and the squirrels were going INSANE, but he texted me a cute message today! I'm waiting to respond, I don't want to just jump right away when he texts. Gotta give him a bit of his own medicine since I've only been waiting to hear from him since, oh, last Friday! LOL.
Having an A isn't for the faint of heart ladies and gentlemen.
Good luck Jersey!