I see his flaws but can’t leave him

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I see his flaws but can’t leave him
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Wed, 06-16-2010 - 7:02pm

Sometimes I wonder why I can’t end my A when I can name so many things I don’t like about my AP. At first I didn’t notice them, but now I see so many of them and still I want him, still go crazy when not with him. I really hope that some day all the things I don’t like about him will

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Wed, 06-16-2010 - 7:48pm
That would be a resounding YES.
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Wed, 06-16-2010 - 11:16pm

I sure wish I could find flaws with my AP....

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Thu, 06-17-2010 - 7:35am

When we're in love, we see flaws but they don't matter - especially when it's in the infatuation stage.

Later down the road, after living together etc., those flaws can seem MUCH bigger and harder to deal with.

But you're not alone.

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Thu, 06-17-2010 - 11:01am
Though he's by no means perfect, AP's biggest "flaw" is that he's married.

anotherseyes

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Thu, 06-17-2010 - 2:50pm


I completely agree with your words:


"When we're in love, we see flaws but they don't matter - especially when it's in the infatuation stage."

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Thu, 06-17-2010 - 7:42pm
I started a list and had to quit when I got to 134.

We only miss what could have been. I know I don't miss what it really was.

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Sun, 06-20-2010 - 3:09am

Hi findfreedom


I am EXACTLY like you. A great husband, want to spend my life with him (he has his faults but love each other warts and all). Whereas I am addicted to an AP who I have very strong feelings for but like you i doubt that its love.


Its not love because he does little things that hurt me evry now and then- just to protect himself. He feels guilty so he wont admit any feelings or look at anything in the future, and he is very self focussed and selfish. But I still cant let him go!


If you find the answer- I'll do the 12 step program with you :)


IGSxx

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You are what you consistently do
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Registered: 06-02-2010
Sun, 06-20-2010 - 4:40pm
may i ask you how is it possible that you love your husband & yet have strong feelings for AP ? I think the first statement is not true .
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Sun, 06-20-2010 - 6:46pm

I realize you didn't ask me, but I'll bite :)

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Sun, 06-20-2010 - 7:41pm

LOL Kimber ;-) ...snap snap ...nice teeth!


Me too ...well said!

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