He's moving!

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Registered: 04-24-2010
He's moving!
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Sat, 06-19-2010 - 5:30pm

I don't know if any of you will remember me. I've posted a few times. I'm not in an A. Maybe an EA at best because I've sat the fence for 10 years. I found out recently that my EA is moving. He's moving a good distance away too. Several states...


I'm reeling from the news and can't stop thinking about the "what if's!" Part of me really wants to tell him how I feel before he goes. Mainly I want to do that because I want to know his feelings. Crazy - yes! Should I come clean or keep my mouth shut and wish him good luck?? I'm dying knowing that he wont be around anymore!

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iVillage Member
Registered: 10-05-2009
Sat, 06-19-2010 - 5:55pm
I say keep your mouth shut and wish him luck. I think it will be better that way. And, be sure you don't promise to write or anything else. The fantasy can remain that way, and no one else gets hurt.
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Registered: 03-26-2010
Sun, 06-20-2010 - 1:06am
OOh!
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Registered: 04-24-2010
Mon, 06-21-2010 - 2:38pm
Thanks for sharing your thoughts! I see both sides of the coin and as usual am on the fence just like I have been for 10 years! This is such a crazy ride.
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Registered: 04-24-2010
Sun, 10-31-2010 - 7:52pm

Ah! It's been months since I've posted. As usualy the merry go-round continues. EA is leaving before the holidays. He surprised me today with a bike ride (he has a harley.) It was beautiful with the leaves changing and I loved having an excuse to snuggle up to his back and place my hands on his hips. We had a late lunch and parted a little akwardly.

I've written him an email through a site that does selfdistructing emails. It disappears after 2 mins so it cannot be forwarded or shared in any way. I've pretty much spilled my guts. Now I'm scared to hit SEND!

I don't know if I am willing to live the rest of my life without ever saying a word....

iVillage Member
Registered: 03-26-2010
Sun, 10-31-2010 - 10:33pm

SOOOO?!?!?

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Registered: 04-24-2010
Mon, 11-01-2010 - 9:47am

NO! I'm such a chicken! But sending it that way seemed immature even though it was the "safest" way I could think of. I'm considering putting it in a note and handing it to him the next time I see him. I don't know what his reaction will be, I'm scared to death of rejection but at the same time scared if the feelings are mutual. Either way I think I have to tell him so I can move on. 10 years is ridiculous!

iVillage Member
Registered: 04-24-2010
Tue, 11-02-2010 - 8:32am

So, I've got a nice little note written up and hidden away. Just waiting for the chance to give it to him.

Did any of you persue your A or did they do the persuing?

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Registered: 04-05-2007
Tue, 11-02-2010 - 8:37am
I think with my OM we chased mutually LOL.

Let us know if you give him the note!
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iVillage Member
Registered: 03-26-2010
Wed, 11-03-2010 - 9:45pm

Just give him the damn note already! Hahahaha! He'll be gone soon anyway.

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Registered: 10-08-2010
Thu, 11-04-2010 - 8:53am

ITA, what do you have to lose...give him the note and see where things go...

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