Putting it in Perspective
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| Sun, 06-27-2010 - 11:30am |
Within the last two weeks, I have seen AP 4 times and have had contact with him everyday and sometimes more than once. He has to initiate all the contact because he is a MM. I am single. I feel like I am hearing from him quite often. All of this contact makes it even harder to put things into perspective. I have made it clear to him that I want more than an A with him. We have a history and I truly believe we could have a wonderful life together after his kids would accept the fact of him leaving his wife. Do I know for sure that he will ever leave his wife next June after his youngest daughter graduates?? NOPE and not even counting on it. (But do a lot of day dreaming :-) about it)
I guess it is just hard to sort out everything when I get so much contact from him. I am open about wanting more, but I am respectful of him and wanting to stay with wife and family for the reasons he gives. So, I try to enjoy A even though I want more.
From all of the posts that I read on here, it seems that everyone feels better about the A if they accept it as it is and not want more from it. The people that want more seem more unhappy about the A. Which at times, I have to admit I am too, but then I rationalize and put things back into perspective for what they are and how it has to be.
Thanks for listening...just rambling about random thoughts.

anotherseyes
Not corny at all. Our situations are so similar. I even giggled when you wrote that you dreamed of living happily ever after. I almost wrote that in my post.
I, too, have thought about my high school sweetheart often over the last 25 years. I do believe we would have a wonderful life together; however, so many obstacles. He is my other half...I do believe that. I think he does too, but the guilt of breaking up his family could be devastating to him and who knows how it would affect us.
Time will tell...
"From all of the posts that I read on here, it seems that everyone feels better about the A if they accept it as it is and not want more from it. The people that want more seem more unhappy about the A."
--I do agree with this, but it is situational.
You are correct, those that want more from their A, are unhappy.. I am the mw, with a sm, I want more from him but our situation does not allowed it. Just like my last affair I been considering to call it off. Everyday I wake thinking "what am doing ?" I am so unhappy in this affair "why continue it ?"
Wish you the best..