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| Mon, 08-30-2010 - 11:49am |
I have seen many of you post how you connect, chat, write, etc. your AP on FB. Is their W or H not on there too? Did you initiate the friend request knowing it could be a no-no form of communication and then AP responded? I don't DARE tell him I found him but I did.
My AP is on Facebook. I found out his last name on accident when he showed me an ID of him years ago. Well, I guess it wasn't "my" accident but could have been his. So it got the best of me and I searched on FB and ta-dah there he was. His profile much to my shock was not private & there staring back at me are pics of him, wife & kid. AGH! And of course, it linked to her profile & there she was (profile private but photos not) I all of a sudden became consumed in looking at photos. At first it hurt, (totally my fault for looking) & then I was kind of stoked because I felt I was a little better off than her in various things. (God, that is a horrible, horrible thing to say, I know.) :( Anyways, so now...I know her name & its bugging me. I have dropped some random clues to AP how I was on FB this or that & he said "my wife mostly does my FB & created it for me" so there is my big fat red flag to never add him & count FB out. But, I admit when I log onto mine, I hop over to his and read his status updates & he had changed his pic to something so totally yummy. I was just curious how so many communicate with AP via FB though given I am assuming a W or H is involved too?
On another note, I am traveling now

Facebook is how I first connected with my AP.
pages, but we do look at them because he or I will make comments about things we have seen on one another's FB pages/wall to each other. If my H questioned it I would just explain it is a friend from work as would he, and that is the truth mostly- :) At first I did find myself looking at her photos, but it was more curiosity than anything else. Now I don't bother, what's the point? It just bugs me so why torture myself.
"I found out his last name on accident when he showed me an ID of him years ago."
You found out his last name by accident? You've been having sex and feeling like you're falling in love with someone who hasn't even shared his last name with you (except by accident)? That's a red flag to me - just be very careful about this guy. You really know nothing about him, except what he chooses to share and what you pick up on Facebook, (which he has no idea you've even found). What you're falling in love with is the fantasy you think he is. We all have that to some degree I guess. An A, after all, is part fantasy. But don't get carried away about someone you don't really even know.
You can send private messages on Facebook, and that's probably how some people here communicate even if their H or W knows about their facebook. Unless your H or W has your facebook password, they can't just get into your account and read your messages. However, it sounds like your AP's wife might have his password if she set everything up, so I wouldn't send him any FB messages.
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