One Week Later

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One Week Later
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Mon, 08-30-2010 - 1:46pm

Just wanted to pop in real quick, see how everyone was doing, and give an update on how things are one week after ending things with AP.


I have to be honest and say that, although it's been easier than I thought (and I think that's due to my commitment to my M), there have been a few rough patches.

anotherseyes

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Mon, 08-30-2010 - 4:56pm

hey anothereyes ,

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Mon, 08-30-2010 - 5:10pm
Wow! I am still totally stunned at how quickly you rediscovered your feeling for your H but also THRILLED for you.
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Mon, 08-30-2010 - 8:36pm
I'm so glad you updated Another. I think about you and wonder how you're doing - since you haven't migrated to any other boards I can't check on you that way! I hope you keep giving us updates - I wish you all the best and hope everything goes the way you would like. :-)

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Mon, 08-30-2010 - 10:57pm

Thank you so much for checking in and letting us know how you are doing.

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Mon, 08-30-2010 - 10:59pm

Honestly, Jane, I think another woman entering the picture hit me so hard, and brought the old feelings that had been buried back to the surface again.

anotherseyes

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Tue, 08-31-2010 - 12:11am

Hi AE,


Im so so pleased for you. You sound like you are going to get there! Its interesting what you say about another woman in the picture. Ive often wondered how Id feel about that- would it reignite our passion and love?


So pleased for you- hang in there!

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Tue, 08-31-2010 - 1:58am

The reconnection with your husband is great! I truly hope that you will not throw it away again. I also hope that you CAN, indeed, be friends with your x-AP and not fall back into an affair again. It's not that I think you can't be friends with him, as I'm friends with mine, but I really think we are few and far between. I can say with 110% conviction that there is zero chance I would ever go down that road again. And it's been five years.

On the other hand, I've read many stories on this board as well as the EAS board where the people have tried, only to be caught up in an affair again. I think it all depends on the people involved. You say he is your "best friend", and that does send up a red flag to me, to be honest. When I talk about my xAP and I, I mean that, yes, we are friends, but we are certainly not "best friends", and I don't spend any alone time with him....ever. Not because I'm afraid to, mind you, but because there is no reason to. But it sounds to me like you're still fairly dependent on this man, at least emotionally....which is what all of this boils down to, in all reality. Just curious....you seem to not really have any women friends. At least not close enough for you to call your "best friend". Why is that?

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Tue, 08-31-2010 - 11:01am

I appreciate your honesty and advice, silly.


In the past, I seem to have been a target for most people to walk all over, to hurt over and over again.

anotherseyes

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Tue, 08-31-2010 - 3:53pm

I'm SO HAPPY for you, another!!