travelgal, all your feelings are completely justified. I don't know...seems like he's stringing you along, esp given another woman is living with him. That certainly doesn't scream out that he wants a relationship with you...I'm SO SORRY..I know that must HURT.
You've got some decisions to make, but I think you have your answers: It hurts to be with him OR without him...sounds like you've never REALLY had a "with him"... just my two cents..I'd hold my head high, be a GREAT mother to that little girl and don't worry about what he is/isn't going to do...You've got to take care of YOU. Sounds like he's doing a little fence-sitting...knock him off :) Walk away and see which side he falls on...IF he comes to you, then decide carefully.
Hiskimber said everything I would say, so I'll just add that I am SO sorry you've been through all this! I hope it all works out and that at least you and he can raise his little girl together. (((HUGS)))
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You've got a lot of choices. If getting out of bed in the morning is a chore and you're not smiling on a regular basis, try another choice. ~Steven D. Woodhull
I just wish things were not so complicated. I can't even imagine being with someone else. I did decide that I needed to take some control and told him what I needed from him if he wanted me to stay. I know I'm settling but I have to say that after the 30 min lecture I got from a friend yesterday about him I was ready to run, and deny being with him, and honestly I will probably keep the fact I am with him from her. It made me see why he could feel like keeping me a secret is easier. I know he gets lectures from his ex, and some friends, co-workers about how I got pregnant on purpose and that he really never had feelings for me....even after 19 months since everyone found out. I know in the end keeping me a secret while pretending to be committed to someone else is not going to end up being the easier path.....and I did clearly tell him he was stupid for thinking so.
I can say that even in 24 hrs I can tell that he took my email of "needs" seriously and I already see some changes....will they last I can only hope. I feel like at least now I have finally told him what I need from him to be happy(since he claimed he wanted to make me happy) and he knows what will happen if he can't do what I need. It may sound strange but I feel better laying it all out. He knows I want to be his only one, he knows I love him, and he says he knows I will make sure the new GF finds out that he is with me and that she will leave.
travelgal, all your feelings are completely justified. I don't know...seems like he's stringing you along, esp given another woman is living with him. That certainly doesn't scream out that he wants a relationship with you...I'm SO SORRY..I know that must HURT.
You've got some decisions to make, but I think you have your answers: It hurts to be with him OR without him...sounds like you've never REALLY had a "with him"... just my two cents..I'd hold my head high, be a GREAT mother to that little girl and don't worry about what he is/isn't going to do...You've got to take care of YOU. Sounds like he's doing a little fence-sitting...knock him off :) Walk away and see which side he falls on...IF he comes to you, then decide carefully.
Best wishes...((HUGS))
You've got a lot of choices. If getting out of bed in the morning is a chore and you're not smiling on a regular basis, try another choice. ~Steven D. Woodhull
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I just wish things were not so complicated. I can't even imagine being with someone else. I did decide that I needed to take some control and told him what I needed from him if he wanted me to stay. I know I'm settling but I have to say that after the 30 min lecture I got from a friend yesterday about him I was ready to run, and deny being with him, and honestly I will probably keep the fact I am with him from her. It made me see why he could feel like keeping me a secret is easier. I know he gets lectures from his ex, and some friends, co-workers about how I got pregnant on purpose and that he really never had feelings for me....even after 19 months since everyone found out. I know in the end keeping me a secret while pretending to be committed to someone else is not going to end up being the easier path.....and I did clearly tell him he was stupid for thinking so.
I can say that even in 24 hrs I can tell that he took my email of "needs" seriously and I already see some changes....will they last I can only hope. I feel like at least now I have finally told him what I need from him to be happy(since he claimed he wanted to make me happy) and he knows what will happen if he can't do what I need. It may sound strange but I feel better laying it all out. He knows I want to be his only one, he knows I love him, and he says he knows I will make sure the new GF finds out that he is with me and that she will leave.