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| Tue, 08-31-2010 - 1:11pm |
Just curious, what keeps it from moving into a PA? You, your AP, or something else? How long has your EA been going on and what makes you define it as an EA?
Just looking for some insight.

Mine is mostly an EA...I say that because we've only "been together" one time in year with a kiss here and there. No real physical contact in the past several months. HARD as HECK, but without going into details I can't share here...we have to be EXTREMELY careful.
Been keeping up with your story, jersey, so I can say this: Think VERY carefully about moving things along. I know you want to, and he seems more hesitant. Smart guy, really. These things need to be carefully weighed before you jump in.
I say that b/c my AP and I rushed into that...there was just INCREDIBLE chemistry. BUT, there's also a friendship that I can't even describe...couple that with GREAT sex and you truly have a problem of sorts on your hands. I was already "in love" w/ AP when we had sex...he was getting there. The sexual encounter just about sent both of us over the edge...all the sudden we were both longing for something we couldn't have...or at least not on any regular basis. The emotions ran amok and both of us were a MESS!
I can't say it happens in all cases, but that extra bonding just may take you both to places you're not prepared to handle...just something to think about. Sounds like your AP is self-aware enough that he's not ready for where that may lead.
AP and I have been "involved" (had a 3 month break...tried to end it...diff saga LOL) for a year. The last 6 months has strictly been EA....not so much as a peck kiss...although he touched my back at a mtg one night, and I thought I was going catch fire!!!
Well you know my whole story but it is AP.
AP and I continued to become more intimate over the course of about 3 months.
Mine as an EA for a little over a month and the opportunity presented its self that we found ourselves in a hotel room with no supervision.