Mind if I Join?

iVillage Member
Registered: 09-01-2010
Mind if I Join?
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Wed, 09-01-2010 - 6:14pm

Hi all...I have been lurking for a couple of days and have found your group to be really supportive and an overall nice bunch of peeps.


My name is Elizabeth and I have gotten myself in a mess. I do my best to offer the best advice I possibly can and am non judgement. I believe people are multi layered and there is so much that makes a person who they are.


I do give good advice, if only I could take it....sigh.


I am writing this in an attempt not to write the man I have been involved with for the past 5 months.


The thing about affairs is, and I am sure you all know, is that they are so hurtful. The ache the heart goes through, the jealousy, the endless indecisiveness..it is hard. The one thing that is the hardest is the inability to turn to anyone..a friend or family member, because they would never understand and would only judge.


So, that is why I am here.

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Registered: 04-11-2010
Wed, 09-01-2010 - 9:23pm

Hi Eliza,


Nice to meet you. Yes affairs suck the big one! They are magical one minute, pain in the bazooka the next.


Now a word of advice- Bird steals your chocolate and Janejosie will try to convince you to go out drinking. Stick with me in front of a sad chick-flick :)


Lexi will look after you best though :)

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You are what you consistently do
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Registered: 08-30-2009
Wed, 09-01-2010 - 9:46pm
Welcome, hope you can find support here eliza!
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Registered: 09-01-2010
Thu, 09-02-2010 - 8:57am
Thank you for the warm welcome!! And who likes to go out drinking? I think I found my new BFF!! lol
iVillage Member
Registered: 09-01-2010
Thu, 09-02-2010 - 9:00am
Thank you Layshka!! In January my bf saw the way my DH treated me and suggested I have an affair. Well, in the spring I did. I told her about it, and that was a huge mistake bc she has been the least supportive she has ever been.
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Registered: 05-17-2003
Thu, 09-02-2010 - 9:35am

Well,

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Registered: 08-19-2010
Thu, 09-02-2010 - 10:16am
WELCOME! I too have no one to talk to and share my deepest secrets so I enjoy this board greatly!
iVillage Member
Registered: 10-03-2009
Thu, 09-02-2010 - 12:01pm

Hi Eliza..

There are a few men here as well.. I would be one.. for those times when someone posts "i need a man to tell me what the heck my AP... " and so on..

Affairs.. well.. if it was that easy, everyone would be doing it, right?.. then again, sometimes, we post that, it seems like everyone is doing it anyway..

Yep, we are a good group here.. really best at telling each other what's the best course of action while not taking it ourselves.. me first..

if the "chi" is for chicago.. you are not that far from me..

welcome to the board..

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Registered: 03-29-2010
Thu, 09-02-2010 - 4:12pm

Welcome Eliza! You are so right about this group - it's the best. I was so amazed when I first found this place. I thought - OMG I can finally talk about my WHOLE life and people won't judge me! I have belonged to message boards for many years and found that I could never share having an A on a normal message board. I once made up a different name for the sole purpose of sharing my A on a message board and all the people who were my friends with my "usual" name came out to throw stones and condemn me. It was a reminder of what life would be like if there was a d-day!

So welcome, and I'll make sure there's plenty of chocolate, wine and chick flicks LOL...

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iVillage Member
Registered: 09-01-2010
Wed, 09-08-2010 - 9:26am

Thanks for the welcome!! Yes..the chi is for chicago...and yes, it seems like A's are an epidemic.



The hardest part is not being able to turne to anyone with sound advice so I am glad I found this board..thanks again for the welcome!!