Randomness from AP

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Registered: 05-31-2010
Randomness from AP
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Wed, 09-01-2010 - 9:57pm
AP and I are in a routine pretty much. We have our days we talk to each other, things we won't talk about (feelings), things like that. Normally, we don't discuss if we are going out of town, if things are going to change, or anything like that. If I don't hear from him one day I don't think anything of it. And I assume the same from him. However, we were texting tonight and he goes you won't talk to me until next week sometime. This is quite abnormal from each of us. I guess I'm wondering why he would say something like this. Thoughts?
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Registered: 03-29-2010
Thu, 09-02-2010 - 5:17pm
Maybe because it'll be a longer time than usual for you to hear from him, and he's being considerate. You said you don't think anything of it if you don't hear from him ONE day, but "sometime next week" is a lot longer than one day! Maybe it would bother HIM if you went NC till next week with no warning so he thought it would be nice to let you know. It's actually only decent for someone to let someone they talk to frequently know if they'll be MIA for awhile. Why be surprised that he's being decent?

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Thu, 09-02-2010 - 6:32pm

I think because it completely caught me off guard. Contact with him has also picked up recently. We used to talk 3-4 times a week for about 5 hours each day (texting/email). Now we are talking about 5-6 times a week for about 8 hours a day (texting/email). His emails have been more frequent as well. I know I should be happy that he told me that, it was actually a very sweet thing to say. But again, it totally caught me off guard. I guess I was just looking to see why all of a sudden something like this would change. We have gone NC for long weekends before, I guess I just assumed since it was a holiday weekend we would do the same. Again, just caught me off guard and I just wasn't sure how to process what exactly it meant.

I guess we can say this is all fun and games to each other, but in reality we must care a bit, even just a very tiny bit, to take the time to say something like that. That is a hard concept for me. I have been shutting the "caring" feelings for him out since the beginning to prevent myself from getting hurt. I guess it's time to admit I might like him a bit and that I actually do care. That is a scary thing to come to terms with.