Need Advice bad and fast

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Registered: 12-05-2003
Need Advice bad and fast
3
Fri, 12-05-2003 - 9:54pm
My best friend and boyfriend has visited his hometown for a while. But ever since he's been gone things are as good. He's been through alot and ive tried to be there 4 him but he called me selfish and i am. I want to always be there for him and i never want to hurt him so what can i do? I dont want to lose my heart b/c of me being selfish and not being understanding. ANYONE HELP!!!!
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Registered: 06-20-2003
Sat, 12-06-2003 - 10:56am
There is not enough info to even give you advice.
iVillage Member
Registered: 08-04-2003
Sat, 12-06-2003 - 1:52pm
Why does he think you are selfish?


Carrie

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Registered: 12-05-2003
Sat, 12-06-2003 - 7:01pm
He says that I am selfish because i only think about myself and how i feel. I've done so much for him just to help him through day to day. But I asked him what about me and him now that he's not home and he keeps saying its always about me. HE says i cant be happy for him and i am but its just really hard to be away from him. We were together every single day and if not together we were communicating some type of way and now its like he's far away and having fun while im at home thinking about him all the time. He says that he misses me more than i miss him but i dont know. I do think at times i can be selfish but that takes time to realize and to work on and i feel like he wants to give up on me. He said that maybe we should focus more on our relationship when things are better. But that could be months or even a year or so. I dont know what to think or how to feel anymore. His moods change so much and he's mostly angry when he talks to me. Im tired of it and i just want things to be normal.