Ungrateful? Am I? ( Long, sorry)
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Ungrateful? Am I? ( Long, sorry)
| Fri, 12-05-2003 - 10:18pm |
A Year ago I moved from one country to another to be with my boyfriend of three years. I moved without having a job or car so his parents agreed to let us stay with them. Did I mention that was a year ago? Since then, I have a good job and I'll have a car within the month. My boyfriend doesn't seem interested in moving out. We don't pay rent here, and we live in a room together but before moving here we did have our own place. I appreciate everything his parents have done for us, in allowing us to live together under one roof, but I think they are part of the problem in that I seem to be the only one that thinks that we need to move out. We pay the majority of the bills so I can see why we would be good to have around. We contribute financially yet, according to them we just can't do enough alot of the time. My parents never came down hard on me the way they seem to come down hard on my boyfriend so I fail to see why he'd want to live under their roof still. I get the feeling that he feels they would be insulted if we left, But I feel that it is a way to prove our independance. I feel trapped and very alone. I want things to work out with him, and feel that our relationship would benefit from us leaning on each other instead of his parents all the time. Me being a very independant person and him being dependant on his parents for so long has really began to stress me out. I have been hinting at leaving (to go HOME)in March, so he made a half-hearted attempt to say that once I get my car we can talk about moving. He doesn't believe that I will be able to handle a car and have enough for rent etc. I think that three months from now will be enough time to prove that I can do both. (I save better under pressure).
Am I being ungrateful by wanting to leave and start a life with my boyfriend?
How long should I wait before I/he realizes that he doesn't want to go any further with this relationship?
Is it fair to anyone to have me here until he decides?
Don't know what to do. I love Him . please help.

Thanks for validating what I think I could see all along :-)