Help!

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Registered: 11-30-2003
Help!
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Mon, 12-08-2003 - 1:00am
I broke up with my boyfriend 9 months ago, and I have been single since, didnt wanted to get into another relationship, but I have been shoving away alot of men, and also lately I am so nervous ti even talk to any new guys? Why?? I dont feel that hyperness in me anymore?? I am more shy and want to be by myself now? whats happening?
iVillage Member
Registered: 11-20-2003
In reply to: roselyn79
Mon, 12-08-2003 - 10:29am
Perhaps you just need to take some time for yourself and discover who you really are and what you want out of life. Just because you haven't been on a date or had a boyfriend in 9 months doesn't mean that something is wrong with you. Perhaps the type of man that you attract isn't the type of man that you need in your life. Once you have completed your own self-discovery, you will notice in the men that you attract. I went thru a similar situation about 5 years ago - and I really worked on me. I knew that there were things about me that I didn't like and needed to change. I knew that these attributes were things that attracted men to me but these men weren't good for me. Does that make sense?

Just work on you, don't worry about men, and when you get yourself together, you will notice the type of men you attract will change.