come back

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Registered: 12-08-2003
come back
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Mon, 12-08-2003 - 9:32am
My boyfriend of 1 1/2 years recently broke up with me. I don't want it to be over and from everything that he has said durring and since we were togeather i don't believe he truly does eigther.

So how do I let him know it's okay to ask me to come back. the catch is how do i do it without coming crawling back to him.
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Registered: 12-08-2003
In reply to: medicgex
Mon, 12-08-2003 - 9:51am
I'm no expert but wouldn't it be OK to let him know that you want to get back together? Is "crawling back" to him such a bad thing?
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Registered: 11-20-2003
In reply to: medicgex
Mon, 12-08-2003 - 9:58am
Why did your boyfriend break up with you to begin with? Did he give a valid reason then that is invalid now? Was his decision to break up with you a "heat of the moment" type of response to an arguement?

I know that I have several questions for you that were not provided in your message, however, I do have a piece of advice. I would suggest just talking, no manipulation involved, but just pure honest & open communications. Tell him how the break up affected you and then discuss why his conversation has changed since breaking up with you. Allow him to truly tell where his head was at back then and where his head is at now. You say that his conversation with you since the break up indicates that he doesn't want the relationship to be over. Well, if that is truly the case, then having this conversation with him could be the catalyst that will prompt him to tell you that he wants to rekindle the relationship.

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Registered: 06-20-2003
In reply to: medicgex
Mon, 12-08-2003 - 10:20am
Why did the two of you break up?
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Registered: 12-08-2003
In reply to: medicgex
Mon, 12-08-2003 - 10:45am
We broke up because of a stupid fight over a social event that he didn't want to go to. He has told me on more than one occation that I should be dating someone who doesn't have the baggage that he does... we got in a fight and he said it again and my responce was so I'm suppose to walk but you won't because that's not who you are... he replied with fine I will and that was the end.... He has a lot going on 2 kids new ex crazy ex ugly situation all around but in his eyes the only thing he's good at is being a dad... the reality is he's and amazing person that i'm extremely proud of. and it's not like he doesn't think im "the one" because he flat out told me, and no not while we were making love, that he feels that i am his perfect match. He's just of the mindset of being overwhelmed and well yeah long and the short is I don't want to loose him because things are great when they work and I don't know how to get him to say he wants me when he has the mentality of "she's better off without me"

so in answer to your question not really for any reason except that we were both really hot and now it's just kinda done so we can't pretend it didn't happen.