To cheat or not to cheat?
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To cheat or not to cheat?
| Mon, 12-08-2003 - 4:38pm |
I've been in a relationship with a man going on 5 years. In the past 5 years he has cheated on me repeatedly, the worst was with his ex-wife. His ex continues to think they will get back together eventually, and I can see why. My BF keeps her on a string as a backup. Everytime he's been with her, it's been when we've had a fight. She does not know this, she thinks it's because he still loves her. I think my BF has an addiction to sex. Besides his infidelity, which is a biggie, for the most part he is a good man. He lacks in the emotional department, as most men do. Anyway, what I'm confused with is this. I've been getting some attention from another man. I know what's on his mind, and I kinda like the idea. My BF says he has not cheated on me for over a year. But I don't trust him at all. So should I give him a dose of his own, or not?

Cheating is never right, it isn't right for your husband and it isn't right for you.
James
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Of course not. Why not just leave this man who cheats on you and re-evaluate your own values.
i hope thinks do work out. never give up on a good thing. but if its no longer good, you should move on.
Carrie
Two wrongs does not make a right. It is never wise to sink down to the level of someone who is behaving badly. This will only boomerang upon you, and hurt you as well. The real question here is why are you with this man? You say he cheats continually, and is not developed in the emotional department. What keeps you there in the relationship? You should really take time to understand this. Some women enjoy relationships which are abusive and in which they can complain about the guy. Some feel they don't know how to find something better. Others do not know how to get out. Be truthful with yourself. Try to understand what you are doing in a situation like this which does not sound healthy for you. Rather than sink to his level, why not raise yourself up and make choices that are healthy for you? Why not treat yourself with respect, and let him know what you will and will not accept in a relationship. Then, if he cannot provide it, why not find someone else who can?
The more you respect yourself, the more others will respect you. You deserve a relationship that brings out the best, not the worst, that you are.
All good wishes.
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