Do I end it?
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| Tue, 12-09-2003 - 12:49am |
He has a pretty low sex drive (at least from what I would expect from a healthy 25yr old). If I'm lucky we will have sex about once a week. To make matters worse, I could go every day it he would go for it. He was raised Catholic and I fear was taught that sex was wrong and it may be hard for him to get over that. We were each other's first experiences with sexual intercourse (although he has been sexually intimate with previous girfriends). I try to be understanding and strong, but it is difficult.
I feel rejected all the time. He will occasionally show his affection for me in other ways, but I really long for a lively, exciting, existent sex life. He can also be a little inattentive toward me (studying first, me second most of the time) and obscene (seduction to him is grabbing my breast and wagging his tongue at me). This puts a huge strain on our relationship and I'm worried it will destroy it. I really like him and want to be a good girlfriend, but I also need to feel loved, attractive and wanted.
Any advice will be greatly appreciated.
Thank you,
Jessica

Teach him by example. If you want him to do romantic things for you- leaving love notes, lighting candles and drawing
I assume you have told him everything and more than what you have told us in your post. Am I right?
But, If he wont communicate to her, how can she expect him to be open to the idea of couneling.I am a firm beleiver that this might work, what does she have to lose?
I agree, if this doesnt work, her last resort needs to be counseling.But, again, alot of people, especially males, are not into going to something like this.Im not sure why, the only reason i can come up with is becaus eit makes them feel at fault and put on the spot looking for answers they may not have and in fact are there to find.
In general, I am think that we just need to be a suppport system, and helpl her thru this, no matter what she decides to do.