Help me pleae, I want her back
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Help me pleae, I want her back
| Tue, 12-09-2003 - 5:58am |
Ok, any advice or stories of inspiration from your own
>lives would be thoroughly appreciated. Please help me
>as I don't know where to turn.
>
>Basically I met my ex when I started uni, we fell head
>over heels with each other. Although we didn't move in
>we pretty much spent every night together for our
>first year and every day. In our second year we moved
>in together with some other friends. Things were great
>but in order to fund us we both worked night shifts on
>top of uni. We started to drift a little but we both
>knew we wanted to be together so worked hard to make
>things work, especially as we knew we were moving to
>London together for a year and then back to uni for
>our final year, there was a perfect model for us to
>work.
>
>My gf moved to London a month before, whilst alone I
>discovered she cheated on me and as a result we broke
>for a bit. I believe it was a huge mistake as she
>claims, her depression and tears proved this so please
>believe me on that notion. Anyway, I forgave her and
>moved to London with her in May. Things were amazing
>all summer, we were so happy to leave all the crap
>that happened back at uni behind us, with a new fresh
>exciting start in London. Again though work started
>putting pressure on us, as a result we drifted but
>still loved each other deeply. It all came to a head
>when she burts in tears saying she needed space,
>couldn't do the forever thing just yeat and felt
>trapped. Loving her so much I moved out to a freinds
>house, it's been 6 weeks split from our 2 year
>relationship. I'm sleeping on a matress on a living
>room floor with my clothes in bin bags with all my
>stuff at her house (her uncles).
>
>We recently started meeting up, going for drinks,
>laughing, saying we miss and love each other, even had
>sex. However we are both seeing meanigless people on
>the side as a rebound which we both know has no future
>but are using as some kind of relief or affection
>base. I know this is wrong and have ended mine. We are
>seeing each other this weekend for a trip away to a
>fashion show (she studies fashion and I got VIP
>tickets through work so thought it would be a nice
>gesture). Last night whilst at hers she burts into
>tears after admiting I was seeing this rebound. She
>told me she loves me, I'm the one, she'll never meet
>anyone like me and want to be with me so badly in the
>future but is scared of screwing up and going through
>the hurt again. She is moving back to uni at the end
>of Dec and I wont be there until Sept. She ays it will
>be too hard right now being apart, but when I'm back
>at uni we could really make another go which will work
>after we have hhad our space and developed. She says
>she still wants ti come down and visit me and wants me
>to come up and visit her.
>
>Is there a chance, I know she loves me and I know I
>love her and want this to work. I'm going to get on
>with my life but with her in mind, and us working.
>
>Sorry for the elaborate tale, but thought it best you
>know everything to advise me. Let me know what you
>think, please
>lives would be thoroughly appreciated. Please help me
>as I don't know where to turn.
>
>Basically I met my ex when I started uni, we fell head
>over heels with each other. Although we didn't move in
>we pretty much spent every night together for our
>first year and every day. In our second year we moved
>in together with some other friends. Things were great
>but in order to fund us we both worked night shifts on
>top of uni. We started to drift a little but we both
>knew we wanted to be together so worked hard to make
>things work, especially as we knew we were moving to
>London together for a year and then back to uni for
>our final year, there was a perfect model for us to
>work.
>
>My gf moved to London a month before, whilst alone I
>discovered she cheated on me and as a result we broke
>for a bit. I believe it was a huge mistake as she
>claims, her depression and tears proved this so please
>believe me on that notion. Anyway, I forgave her and
>moved to London with her in May. Things were amazing
>all summer, we were so happy to leave all the crap
>that happened back at uni behind us, with a new fresh
>exciting start in London. Again though work started
>putting pressure on us, as a result we drifted but
>still loved each other deeply. It all came to a head
>when she burts in tears saying she needed space,
>couldn't do the forever thing just yeat and felt
>trapped. Loving her so much I moved out to a freinds
>house, it's been 6 weeks split from our 2 year
>relationship. I'm sleeping on a matress on a living
>room floor with my clothes in bin bags with all my
>stuff at her house (her uncles).
>
>We recently started meeting up, going for drinks,
>laughing, saying we miss and love each other, even had
>sex. However we are both seeing meanigless people on
>the side as a rebound which we both know has no future
>but are using as some kind of relief or affection
>base. I know this is wrong and have ended mine. We are
>seeing each other this weekend for a trip away to a
>fashion show (she studies fashion and I got VIP
>tickets through work so thought it would be a nice
>gesture). Last night whilst at hers she burts into
>tears after admiting I was seeing this rebound. She
>told me she loves me, I'm the one, she'll never meet
>anyone like me and want to be with me so badly in the
>future but is scared of screwing up and going through
>the hurt again. She is moving back to uni at the end
>of Dec and I wont be there until Sept. She ays it will
>be too hard right now being apart, but when I'm back
>at uni we could really make another go which will work
>after we have hhad our space and developed. She says
>she still wants ti come down and visit me and wants me
>to come up and visit her.
>
>Is there a chance, I know she loves me and I know I
>love her and want this to work. I'm going to get on
>with my life but with her in mind, and us working.
>
>Sorry for the elaborate tale, but thought it best you
>know everything to advise me. Let me know what you
>think, please

However, you might consider reading this book:
How One of You Can Bring the Two of You Together: Breakthrough Strategies to Resolve Your Conflicts and Reignite Your Love by Sue Ellen Page
Carrie