How do i spice things up?

iVillage Member
Registered: 12-01-2003
How do i spice things up?
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Tue, 12-09-2003 - 3:16pm
my b/f and i have only been together for about 8 mths. (on and off). i wanted to know if any of you had some tips/ideas to spice up our relationship? i'm the type to write love notes and letters and he isn't, but i just want to keep the fires burnin'. thanks.
iVillage Member
Registered: 06-20-2003
Tue, 12-09-2003 - 3:41pm
I am a little curious about the 8 months on and off- and wonder what kind of problems the two of you have that would make it this way. Perhaps your problems are bigger than just spicing things up. Relationships aren't supposed to be boring after 8 months. Anywho- The two of you can go out together, take up a new hobby together, find something in your local community that both of you are interested in doing, take a vacation together, find things around the house that both of you enjoy, etc. If it makes you feel good to write him letters, do it, but don't expect anything back in the same form. Some people are just not like that, and it's unrealistic to expect them to become like that because you desire it.
iVillage Member
Registered: 08-04-2003
Tue, 12-09-2003 - 5:17pm
Spice as in sex, not intimacy right? You do things, but not him. You can't make him....

Tell him to meet you at home for afternoon sex.

Greet him at the door.

Give him a bj in the shower.

Take a bath together.

Give him a massage.

Send suggestive emails or text msg during the day.

Leave a card in his car or mail him a card.

Be spontaneous.

Reading material to consider:

Getting the Love You Want, Harville Hendrix

This book talks about doing nice things for each other for the sake of being nice to each other - making coffee/breakast in the morning, buying flowers, saying thank you, etc.


Carrie