Don't Know What To Do!!
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Don't Know What To Do!!
| Tue, 12-09-2003 - 4:29pm |
I was dating and engaged to a very special man from August 2002-August 2003. He had alot of issues he had not dealt with and alot of anger bottled up inside. He never shared his problems with me because he said that he didn't want his problems to become my problems. I have a 3-year-old daughter and I didn't want my daughter around him while he was being like that so I decided to leave. We have been separated now for about 4 months and last week on my birthday I got a phone call from him and he asked me to call him back...so I did. We talked that night for 4 hours and we have talked every day since then and we went out with a group of friends this past weekend. We miss each other very much, but he told me that he is not ready for a serious relationship again this soon. He said that when he is I am number one and I want more than anything to be back with him. Do I wait for him to be ready and just date and be friends till he's ready???

He's not ready for a relationship, he's told you that, so if you continue hanging around with him, etc, wanting more, waiting for him to be ready, hoping he will be ready, then you are *settling* and allowing him to sit on the fence and not make a committment to you or to himself to work through his issues.
As much as it hurts, it's very hard to remain friends when one party is hoping for more than friendship.
Carrie