Need to tell my long story, need advice.

iVillage Member
Registered: 12-11-2003
Need to tell my long story, need advice.
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Thu, 12-11-2003 - 1:19am

Hello, I am really getting depressed about my inability to stop obsessing about my first love.

iVillage Member
Registered: 06-20-2003
Thu, 12-11-2003 - 9:13am
In my opinion you are just holding onto him because it makes you feel better at times. I mean, if you only run back to him when things aren't going good in your life, that makes it pretty obvious. I've been in this situation before- more on his end- and I think it's totally irrational. If you loved him so much, you wouldn't have married your hubby or have been with him for 10 years. You are just holding onto a fantasy because you have no idea what it would be like to be with him NOW- you are caught up in what it was like in HIGHSCHOOL. Why don't you go talk to a counselor about this? This fantasy that you have is going to ruin your marriage if you don't address it soon.
iVillage Member
Registered: 05-20-2003
Thu, 12-11-2003 - 11:56am
You obviously aren't happy in your marriage. Have you been to marriage counseling? I think you should do what is right for yourself and your child. Think about the example you are setting for her. Either improve things in your marriage or get out but you need to be happy.

A seperate issue is your ex. Don't expect things to be perfect there especially if you run to him right away if you leave your husband. You have both changed and are adults and have all the adult repsonibilities and stress that go with that now unlike high school.

He is not your answer to unhappiness.

Good luck

Gina