I know a HUGE secret-do I confront him?
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| Fri, 12-12-2003 - 1:38pm |
I know we've only been together 4 months, but I feel like this is something he should have revealed to me, as our relationship is close and I have told him very personal things about myself. I want to confront him because I'm no good at living a lie, but his sister told me this in confidence. Not only that, she wasn't even supposed to know because he only told his mother and his mother was the one that told his sister. I don't want to cause problems in his family, but I am investing more and more into this relationship and am afraid he won't ever tell me if I don't ask. My friend doesn't know the details, so I don't even know if he's still married to this girl, waiting for her papers to come through, or if he even went through with it, but I have to know. What would you all do????? Help!!!
Janet

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My boyfriend says to ask him if he's been married before.
Carrie
You can maybe also speak to him. You're obviously not upset at what he did, so you can assure him that you're not mad and ask him about it. Just tell him that you were sworn not to tell him. He may even be relieved that you know and you two could possibly be even closer.
Carrie
At the 4-month mark I don't think it is mandatory to disclose past critical moments. If you were 12 to 18 months together and seriously discussing a future including marriage, then these types of things need to be known.
I would tell his sister that you're very sorry to have to break a confidence, but this is too important to NOT talk to your bf about.
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