Im alone.......

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Registered: 12-13-2003
Im alone.......
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Sat, 12-13-2003 - 7:43am
Uh im new to this board.

But my problem is that me and my boyfriend of 18 months have split up. Im so heart broken, i am willing to fight to get him back, but i dont think he wants to know, he still says that im the most beautifull thing that he has ever seen, he still calls me cute and still says he thinks about me, but he just doesnt want to be with me, and i cant cope....im crying all the time, all my friends and my mum say is that i should grow up and move on, but its too hard....i really thought that i was gonn be with him for a long time, but i dont know what to do now. im alone and i cant take it......my eyes hurt from crying so much, ive lost my appeitite and i just wanna sleep all the time.

Please help me....anything is better than feeling like this.

iVillage Member
Registered: 03-26-2003
In reply to: grimbini
Sat, 12-13-2003 - 8:52am
The first thing you must do is force yourself to have no contact with him - if he wants to have contact with you it has to be to want to resume an exclusive relationship - you are not letting yoursef move on by still speaking to him and letting him say flattering things. also what other interests do you have other than him - this is the time to develop those and find some new ones - sports, community theater (paint scenery, do makeup, make costumes, act, sing), tae kwon do, swing dancing - whatever gets you out of the house and around other people - not for dating yet just for a social life - and never make a man the center of your life again. While you give yourself time to mourn, respect the fact that your friends also have lives and while they want to be supportive it gets boring after awhile if all you talk about is him - to you it is the most important thing that has happened, but they have other things going on in their lives and if you want them to continue to be close to you respect their need for space and to talk about other things.

You will be fine!