He's cheated... was I wrong to snoop?
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He's cheated... was I wrong to snoop?
| Sun, 12-14-2003 - 9:52am |
I posted a message earlier in the week. I found out that my husband had cheated on me (he claims prior to our being engaged). He has claimed all week that he wants this to work and that he loves me. I agreed to try and decided to go to our storage unit to get Christmas decorations to try to make the holidays seem 'normal'. Well, I came across a crate of his that was filled with shoe boxed. Curiosity and jealousy got the best of me and I found stacks and stacks of letters from ex-girlfriends. Granted, most of them went back to HS and college (we were together then too) and none of them was recent. However, he kept letters and pictures of the first girl he cheated on me with (yes, there has been more than one). Even though it ended years ago, I was livid. I packed up all the letters and brought them home and told him I wanted him to get rid of them. Well, now he's pissed at me. He claims that up until a few years ago, I had old letters from other guys. This is true, but 1) I I NEVER cheated on him, and 2) when he found them, I wasn't at all angry and I just shredded them all. I understand him having crap from years ago that he hasn't gotten rid of, but after his first affair I was so depressed I ended up with an eating disorder and in therapy for years - and thinking about it still makes me cry. Anyway, I know that I wasn't completely right, but was I completely wrong?

Does this mean I wish to cheat on my husband or still love this guy? No way.
The photos are the least of your problems. Your husband has cheated on you more than once. You still don't trust him. How have you handled the situation? Did you go to counseling or did you just start watching his every move?
I agree..the photos/letters are a symptom, not the problem.