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| Sun, 12-14-2003 - 2:03pm |
okay where to start? i have been seeing this guy - not dating, and we had both discussed that we could probably never be boyfriend/girlfriend - but we enjoy each others company. On fri nite he got very drunk and i looked after him while he threw up - then when he was feeling better we crashed out in a bed with another girl. He then said he was feeling like he wanted to misbehave with this other girl - and it would be cool if i joined in, but if i didn't want to I should leave - so I left. I am so confused - shhould i hate him for this, should i not talk to him again - i am repulsed by his behaviour and i have never been treated this way so i don't know how to react - help please?!

Carrie
You said, "...i am repulsed by his behaviour and i have never been treated this way so i don't know how to react..." I think you *do* know how to react - you left! You are repulsed by what he did - what more is there to say? Most guys do not treat women like this. I think he thought he would take advantage of your caring about him to use it to have his fun. I am proud of you that you didn't let him use you!
You deserve someone who will care about you for who you are and treat you respectfully - and he doesn't sound like the guy - so why torture yourself hanging out with him hoping one day he will change his mind and want to be with you? Maybe you aren't thinking this and I am way off base, but I kind of got that feeling from your post.
You might want to move on and find a new person to hang out with. It might feel weird at first without him, but you will eventually be happier and feel good about yourself and your decision. Don't lower your morals or values to please a guy - stay true to yourself and the lovely person you are!
Sherri