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I found numbers of other women in his
| Mon, 12-15-2003 - 4:58am |
I was writing my boyfriend a little love note and went to put it in his wallet when I found a couple of numbers of other women. I was so livid I confronted him right away. I told him it was over that there wasn't even any need for an explanation because it was over. He pleaded I hear him out and told me that the two cards with numbers on them were from women who gave him his number at work (he is a waiter and works a 9 to 5 job as well). He told me that one of them wants to do business with the company he works for and she doesn't even live here, but she signed it "Natasha, with Love from Russia" !!!!! I was livid. The other he says is from a woman who works at a store nearby his restaurant where he was going to buy me a pair of sunglasses and she was going to give him a discount. He told me that he has never done anything with anyone since we have been dating and that I should trust him. He told me he doesn't trust ME because he has no idea what I am up to while he is at work.
I know I am going to get blasted for having believed his excuses for the phone numbers. Am I completely blindsided by this thing called love? Please help!
I know I am going to get blasted for having believed his excuses for the phone numbers. Am I completely blindsided by this thing called love? Please help!

First and foremost, a healthy relationship is one thats based on honesty. It sounds like neither one of you trust each other. Its a cat a nd mouse game, taking turns hurting each other.
You two either want to learn how to trust, which means none of this stuff, or you dont.If you done, then by all means, let each other move on.Its not fair to be with someone when you cant even have trust between the both of you.
Hope this helps!
-Amy
Yes, you are. But believe me, you've got company! I'm sure many of the women reading this have been in your shoes; I certainly have.
Those excuses sound totally lame, and by accusing you of cheating he's trying to switch it around to put YOU on the defensive. That's the oldest trick in the book so please don't fall for it!
I know it's easier said than done and it's your heart that's hurting, but I really don't think this guy knows what honesty and integrity are all about. You can do much better, and time will heal your pain.