B/f spends too much time w/ friend
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B/f spends too much time w/ friend
| Mon, 12-15-2003 - 2:32pm |
I have a dilemma. I don't have a problem with my boyfriend's best (guy) friend as a person, it's just that he and my boyfriend spend way too much time together. I have not doubt that they're both extremely HETERO, so no suspicion there. But, they're almost a package deal. They work together, they go to the gym together everyday, go out to eat every night. When they're not together, they're on the phone with each other. I'm always invited to go along with them, but it's very difficult to get time with my boyfriend ALONE. Whenever I call my boyfriend to make plans to go out, he has to check with his best friend first. I have tried to communicate to him that I would like more time with him alone and I should be his top priority. He says that all his past girlfriends have had the same complaint and so have his best friend's girlfriends. He doesn't see anything wrong with the time they spend together. We have a wonderful relationship otherwise. I have met and love his family, he definitely wants a future with me. He recently got a bigger apartment for when I move to where he lives. I love my man dearly and this is the only complaint that I have with him. Can you help?

Sit him down and let him know, in no uncertain terms, that you need to be at the center of his life, not his best friend as it is you he has to live with for the rest of his life. Make sure he understand you clearly. If he is half the man you say he is he will see it your way.
Best wished, T
Well, it sounds like you BF might be one of those people who cant seem to grow up and realize that what hes doing is hurting your relationship. If you have tried to talk to him, make plans for solo time (and worse yet, he cancels to be with his best freind), or