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| Tue, 12-16-2003 - 12:48pm |
I am a 29 year old wife with two children (5 and 4). I have been married 6 years. I feel like we are roommates. We rarely argue, we have no major problems, sex has become payment for housework. My children love him although I think that our marriage is one of conveinence. He tells me he loves me and so I have to assume he does but I just don't feel that real connection. The kids love him and we have a good amount of unsecured debt that also clouds my judgement on whether to stay or go. I believe that if it wasn't for the debt and the children, I would leave. What should I do?

Reading material to consider:
His Needs, Her Needs by Dr. Willard F. Harley Jr
A Couple's Guide to Communication, John Mordechai Gottman
Getting the Love You Want, Harville Hendrix
How One of You Can Bring the Two of You Together: Breakthrough Strategies to Resolve Your Conflicts and Reignite Your Love by Sue Ellen Page
The 10 Second Kiss, Ellen Kreidman
Relationship Rescue by Phil McGraw
Carrie
Carrie
Sometimes I feel like I have made up my mind and there isn't anything left to counsel but at the same time I feel like I am a jerk if I choose to walk away from this marriage because our children need him and we don't have any real problems. How do you explain to someone that you want to leave because there isn't any fighting and we pretty much get along? Besides, we have about a large amount of unsecured debt hanging over our heads. Leaving him would mean that we would need to split it and I don't know what kind of life I could provide for the kids while having all of that debt to handle.