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| Wed, 12-17-2003 - 5:59am |
I have been debating back and forth about this. I am a college student who has been dating my boyfriend for 2 years. He goes to school 300 miles away from me and comes back to visit me once in awhile (also because he has family living where i live). I love my boyfriend very much, but in the past we have had financial issues and I have confronted him that I had felt neglected by him whenever he was gone.
I am also currently dating another guy for about 5 months. I have told the truth to my boyfriend about the other guy. My boyfriend really wants to work things out with me. He says he understands that I felt neglected and really wants to change things (i have seen some improvement). In fact, he has told me that he is willing to hold back on his dream of starting a business for one year just to come home to be with me.
After telling me this, I am scared that if i chose him and the relationship does not work out, then he will have lost time in starting his business. I feel as though I am twisting his goals and dreams and I don't want to be responsible for that.
On the hand, the other guy that I am currently dating is also a great guy. I know he has potential in being a great and long-term boyfriend. I have told him my situation with my boyfriend and he understands my position and whatever decision I decide to make.
What do you think I should do?? Thanks.

Well, aside from the fact that i think you are wrong for dating two people basically at that the same time, no matter how far away one lives, says its ok, or hangs around- someone will end up getting hurt. Im afraid also that if you dont make up your mind and choose one of these grest guys, and one only, that the person ending up getting hurt will be you.
Trust your heart. As much as you want to sit there and say you feel like you will be holding the long distance love back by having him come home, I thin kyou are using that as an excuse for something else. Trust your heart.....I think you know what you want to do, you are just waiting for someoen to tell you it's ok. Dont wait for that.
Good luck,