Bad mouthing me to his ex in an email!

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Registered: 12-17-2003
Bad mouthing me to his ex in an email!
Wed, 12-17-2003 - 4:07pm
HELP! HELP! HELP!

My boyfriend stepped away from his desk and I saw that he had an email from his ex FIANCE. I took a closer look and saw that she was badmouthing me, telling him that I was a "controlling, demanding child" (we have a 7 year age difference). She proceeded to bash me in the email and then told him to leave me in NYC while he goes home to Baltimore for christmas ( because she will be in the same city).

I know I snooped, but now that I have this information about what he is telling other people about me.. WHAT DO I DO?

BIG PROBLEM.. I wanted to blame her and yell and scream.. BUT then realized that the only reason she would say these things is because he had complained about me to her. I never liked this woman because she was never respectful of our relationship, but he defends his "friendship" with her and it plays off of my insecurities.

HOW DO I CONFRONT HIM ON THIS? WHAT DO I SAY ABOUT HIS FEELINGS HE IS EXPRESSING TO HER ABOUT ME? ABOUT HER REACTIONS?

It's not about jealousy this time (even though I am a jealous person)

Please, someone give me some good advice soon.. I have to go home in a few hours and dont want to regret anything I say...