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| Thu, 12-18-2003 - 6:24pm |
So your girlfriend's insecurities MADE you to go to the computer, search for your ex, have this 2 hr conversation with her, share intimate, emotional, sexual detail with her, save the message? I think not.
This so crosses the line in my opinion. If my boyfriend ever did this, I would be out the door, period. Because I know something about myself - I do not share well. And he knows it. What you did is considered a betrayal in the least and emotional infidelity at the most. So if I come across harsh, my apologies.
::I dated for 4 years but I wasn't in love and broke it off.
What does that say about you as a person?
::We chatted for about 2 hours and got very reminiscent about our past sexual relationship and I was very complimentary of her.
If it was so good why give it up? I'm sure your girlfriend had the same reaction I do.
::We also indulged in some discussion about the types of sexual things we have been doing since breaking up (not with each other of course) and the discussion clearly left reality, as it was almost like a BS contest, and she described some orgy on a boat, and i was acting like it was a hot story.
If this was a conversation between two guys it would be considered a pissing contest, but because it was with your ex, it was inappropriate - were you trying to impress each other, turn each other on? Or maybe you both have huge egos and needed a stroke? None of this was any of her business.
::I swear that it was not cybersex, I wasn't doing anything other than typing.
Nothing but typing? Read on the boards here, lots of stories posted about typing (cyber sex, sharing intimate, emotional details, getting worked up) Hmm, sounds like emotional infidelity to me. Sharing intimate details with her, betraying your girlfriend, for kicks, ego boost, because you didn't have anything better to do for the evening?
Sorry, I've been so harsh, but I can't believe the things people do and they what they do to justify their behavior, actions, choices, etc.
You might suggest couple's counseling for you and your girlfriend. It will help her with her self-esteem issues and maybe it will help you figure out why you wanted to share so intimatly with your ex, thereby betraying your girlfriend.

Carrie
The whole thing was just so stupid on my part. I really have no feelings for the ex and truly loved my girlfriend. I know this to be 100% the way I feel. So its so hard to lose it over something so stupid, selfish and unnecessary.
Sometimes life's lessons are learned the hard way.
Carrie