I feel guilty

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Registered: 04-22-2003
I feel guilty
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Fri, 12-19-2003 - 10:29am
My boyfriend has been sick with the flu for the past week and on Tuesday he didn't call me once. I called him at 10pm to see how he was doing and he did sound terrible. I was upset taht he didn't call me. I know it sounds selfish but if I was sick I would definitely want to at least hear his voice. I told him on Wednesday I was upset that I didn't talk to him and he got so angry with me. He was saying that he slept the whole day and felt like crap. He said he didn't talk to anyone that day and I said I didn't think i was just anyone. Basically he got angry at me for getting upset. Now I feel guilty. How do I make this better?

Thank you for any advice.

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Registered: 05-20-2003
In reply to: riese2002
Fri, 12-19-2003 - 11:10am
Wait until he feels better and apologize. Tell him that when you are sick, talkikng to him makes you feel better so you assumed the same of him. Also tell him that his recovery is important to you and that you are sorry he had to deal with this. Don't make a bigger issue out of it but be truthful and sincere.
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Registered: 04-22-2003
In reply to: riese2002
Fri, 12-19-2003 - 11:41am
thank you so much, that is great advice.
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Registered: 09-26-2003
In reply to: riese2002
Fri, 12-19-2003 - 12:40pm

I would apologize profusley to him for overreaccting and then make it a point to pick your battles more wisley.No one wants to be accussed of not caring when they are sick or anyother time for that matter, so think before you spout accusations at someone you care deeply for.


What makes you insecure to feel like this?Is is something that happens alot? If it is, you need to get at the root of whats causing these feelings, because it could eventually ruin what you have with him.


 

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Registered: 06-06-2003
In reply to: riese2002
Fri, 12-19-2003 - 1:09pm
Apologize. When someone is sick is not a good time to start a fight.
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Registered: 06-09-2003
In reply to: riese2002
Fri, 12-19-2003 - 1:47pm
Apologize to him for over-reacting and assure him that you will give him the space he need the next time he's sick. Personally, I like to be left alone when I'm sick, I don't want to see anyone or talk to anyone and I certainly don't want to argue with anyone, so I understand your BF's position. He's a different person than you, so you can't expect that he'd want the same type of attention you like when you're ill. Good Luck.

B.J.

Mommy to Samantha Renee 12/11/04

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Registered: 07-24-2003
In reply to: riese2002
Fri, 12-19-2003 - 2:33pm
and bring him some soup. Guys like it when you take care of them.