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sexual assault
| Sat, 12-20-2003 - 12:50am |
Without boring you with the details, I'm having a bad day and although the assault happened at least 4 years ago I can't get it out of my mind today. I think that I haven't dealt with it properly. My question is I wasn't raped, not anywhere near it. I was staying at a friends house and her roommate (who was sharing a bed wit his fiance at the time) entered my room and touched me under the blanket. I stoppd up to him and it didn't go any further. The friends I told at the time laughed it off and I feel like my feelings for this situation are invalide, is that true - everybody always talks about sexual assault as rape. I am really confused at the moment and would like some guidance. Please.

He did it without you knowing he was going to do it and it was very inappropriate. You feeling this was is valid. He could have kept going and it could have turned into sexual assualt, but thankfully it didn't!
Your friends probably laughed about it because they were uncomfortable with facing upto what their friend had done and confronting him about this issue. It was easier for them to laugh abotu it and act like it was nothing or that it never happened. Many times laughter is in place of feeling nervous or being unsure of what you are feeling, so I think this is why they tried to laugh it off. To address the issue would have been too hard for them. With maturity comes the ability to address issues with more reality.
You were right to feel what you did. Just be careful in the future in circumstances such as that one - lock your door! It was a scarey situation for you and that is why you still think about it. Are these people still your friends as it's 4 years later and are they still so immature acting? Just wondering...
But to answer your question - yes to me sexual assault is rape or trying to rape someone.
Sherri