Are we dating or not?

iVillage Member
Registered: 12-20-2003
Are we dating or not?
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Sat, 12-20-2003 - 3:16pm
I was wondering if anyone could help me out on deciding what to do in my relationship. My boyfriend and i have been dating off and on since 1998 (not because we broke up but because he had moved back and foreth to WV.) He moved back in Oct. of 2002 and we started our relationship again. we moved in together in november 2002. Everything was fine and dandy and in Feb. 2003 we found out that i was pregnant. Now everything still remained the same we were loving and caring. I told my mother i was pregnant and since i didnt have a job at the time she suggested that i come stay with her when our lease was up. She wanted to help me out with the baby and finances. My BF and i were good until we moved into separate homes. he moved into an aparement with a friend. and way in august 31 2003 i had our baby and things just havent been the same. he has only hugged me once and hasnt kissed me at all.

I have a hard time asking him were we stand because i start crying evertime i talk to him about the subject. he looks at me and tells me we can talk about it later when i calm down. he recently asked me how you can tell if a girl likes you... i dont know what this means. He told me the other day that he loves me but and wants me to move in with him at the begining of the year.

i just dont knwo where we stand i dont know if we are dating or not... if hes jsut acting this was because of the baby... should i just suck it up and call him (so i dont cry)

thanks for all the help you can give

iVillage Member
Registered: 05-20-2003
Sat, 12-20-2003 - 3:36pm
You really need to be adult about this and have a mature conversation. It is o.k. to cry while talking. Don't let that discourage you. Tell him how you feel and why you are confused. If you are going to have a relatiosnhip you need to communicate. No one else can tell you if you are dating or not.

Do this for your baby. Come to terms with where you stand with your boyfriend and ask him what he meant when he asked how to tell if a girl likes you. He is not ready to move in with you if he is interested in other girls and not interested in kissing you.

iVillage Member
Registered: 03-26-2003
Sat, 12-20-2003 - 4:05pm
I think that because you chose to have unprotected sex with someone you were not married to, you took the risk that he might not want to be with you. Make sure he has as much time with the baby as he wants, that he financially supports you, and focus on being a mother because that is the choice you made when you had unprotected sex with him.