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I REALLY LOVED HIM
| Sat, 12-20-2003 - 9:03pm |
My boyfriend of almost three years recently broke up with me. He said that he needed time to "clear his head." What he meant by this I do not exactly know. Towards the end of our relationships things were not as good as they had once been. We were beginning to argue more, over things that really didn't matter at all. I must admit that I too had thought about initiating th breakup, but didn't becaujse I couldn't bear the thought of loosing him. He too said that he had been thinking about calling it quits for a while, but didn't take any action because of all the good times. I really, really, really still love him. I don't like being alone, but deep down I know that it really was and still is love. I have loved others in the past, but never felt this strongly about it. He siad that he loves me, but doesn't know if he is "in love" with me any more and he wants to figure that out. We agreed that we would be friends still, but would give each other about two weeks to work things out before talking again. I vowed to myself that I would nbot call him first, but I don't know if he will call either, because we are both pretty stubborn. It has only been one week and I truly miss him. Not because I'm alone, becuase I've been out with friends, but becuiae I feel like something is missing from my life. We had talked about our future, and I honestly felt like he was the one. I love him with all my heart, even through the arguements. I have spent alot of time thinking about all of this and I know some things that I have to do differently to make things work. I would do basically anything to be with him right now! I can't stop thinking about him, and as horrible as it sounds I just want to know if he is with someone else! What should I do!!! PLEASE HELP!!!

well like he said he wanted 2 weeks of time. even though its hard, and might've seemed like a month, its only been a week. give him another week. and sometimes even though you don't wanna make a first call, because of your principles and pride... etc. well weigh your pride with your desires. which one do you want more? to keep your pride, not calling him? or swallow the pride, go for what you want, and tell him how you feel?
either way, give it another week. the chances are he will call if you don't, because if you guys have been together for a long time, your partner won't just stop talking to you and completely disappear from your life. and if you guys are really meant to be, and the attraction is still there, you guys will end up together in the end. things have their own ways of working themselves out. just give it time!
good luck!
and meanwhile don't worry if he's with someone else or not... just focuz on what you need to say to him when you see him, and since you already what are some things that needed to be changed to make it work next time, perhaps you can share these thoughts with him when you finally talk to him. and don't worry, it will happen.
melody, i'm curious, are you & your boyf contacting each other every day? or much less than before you had this problem? i'm glad to hear you guys are getting better, i guess i'm at that point where i'm just entering or just beginning that phase in my relationship..
Edited 12/22/2003 12:38:08 AM ET by destiny0212