How do I stop thinking about other men?
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How do I stop thinking about other men?
| Sun, 12-21-2003 - 11:44am |
Hi, I'm not sure if this is the right forum or not to post this but I am pretty bothered lately about feelings i'm having and hoping someone else can give me some 'healthy' advise. So I guess I should give you a run down on my situation. I am in my thirtys, I am married almost 10yrs now, we have one child. I married quit young, at 22yrs old, and married my first boyfriend. The problem is now, I am constantly thinking about other men, wondering about what it would be like to kiss them, what it would be like to be involved with them. I'm not sure if it's because I never dated before I married my husband or what. He was actually the first guy i kissed too. I love him very much, don't get me wrong. We are best friends, and when we make love there is alot of passion but I feel like I'm missing something. I am so curious about other men too. I guess it was my fault for not playing the field before we married, but when we dated it got serious very quick. How do i turn off these feelings in my head????? I know that cheating on my husband would destroy our family, even a harmless kiss is out of the question in my mind. But some days I long for that kiss so much and it is hard to get out of my mind. I want to find peace with my relationship and not need to long for anothers kiss. But I fear that if I was put in the position for a harmless kiss I might just act on it. Please give me some advise on how to come to terms with this. Suzanne
Edited 12/22/2003 2:37:10 PM ET by suzanne10
Edited 12/22/2003 2:37:58 PM ET by suzanne10

As long as you think you are missing something then you are. It's a state of mind. Because just say you acted on any of this, you would look back and realize you weren't missing anything at all. Talk back to those impluses.
My best to you.
Carrie
Yes if she feel something is missing her obligation is to find out what it is and to work her tail off on achieving satisfaction in her marriage before throwing in the towel.
Carrie