what does he mean?

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Registered: 12-21-2003
what does he mean?
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Sun, 12-21-2003 - 6:14pm
A guy that I dated for a few months told me that he still likes me. We broke up because he wasn't ready for a relationship, but he's told me that he's changed in the last couple months. I asked him why he liked me and whay he would like to try again and he said because he's comfortable around me. I feel the same way about him. THere's something about him that I like although I can't pinpoint it. What do you think he means by being comfortable around me (there would be nothing more than friendship, or in a good way like a commitment?) and do you think I should give him another chance?
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Registered: 03-26-2003
Sun, 12-21-2003 - 8:37pm
It means he already knows that you like him as more than a friend, he wouldn' thave to risk rejection asking someone else out, he's "familiar" with you and wouldn't have to romance you as much to get a "relationship status".

No, it doesn't mean he wants commitment......it means that until now he hasn't wanted the obligations, requirements, and commitments to meet another person's needs appropriately, and compromise his own needs for theirs appropriately. He's saying he is willing to take a shot at doing more than hanging out and hooking up...which he's willing to try that with you because he's not going to risk reject, or have to do as much "prep work" to get to the "comfortable" stage.

In some ways - that' sgood. HE won't be self-conscious about farting or belching as quick. In some ways it's bad.....because he'll find you that you probably 'expect' things in terms of phone calls and meeting your neds that he's not expecting to have to deal with "so early in a relationship"...but it'll be there becuase you're both 'comfortable' together.

Erin

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